What can I do about my brother in law?

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He always comes to Toronto and insults me on wasting all my years of life, unmarried, no job, and being fatter and fatter now.

I begin to cry and feel sometimes angry with all those stuff he says because deep down in me, I know I had to overcome so many obstacles and was independent in the past few years.

The fact that he said to me "There's something wrong with you. You've wasted all the years in your life, etc."

What can I do about it?
 
Try your best to ignore him. There's something wrong with him. People who insult others generally have very low self esteem, so they try to bring others down to their level.
Try to limit your time with him. If you can get out of the house while he's there, do so. Just say 'Oh, I've got to run this errand' and leave. Don't explain that the errand is to get the heck away from him. :-) It's best to say as little as possible so people can't trap you in a lie. If pressed, just repeat what you said the first time.
You're a strong person - you've overcome so much and you deserve better.
Good Luck!
 
Do not allow him to stay at your house. Or scream at him saying " Shut the F*** Up Now.
 
You could get a life, get a job, and stop getting fatter. None of what you described makes it seem like you're exactly on top of things. And who knows? Maybe he's got a point. Sounds cruel, I know. But could quite possibly be true.
 
We have to be very care full that the criticism that we give out is not crippling, what your brother in law is doing to you is wrong.

The Bible says that we are to pray for those who treat us badly because I now know that the criticism that we give out falls back on us and we could end up worse off than the person we was criticizing.

I was once in your brother in law shoes, not many problems in life and nothing better to do criticizer some one very close to me but little did I know that I would soon be on the receiving end with severe depression and in a cabbage state.

This person still gave me love and it was not until while i was having the depression that I realized that everything is beautiful and I began to see a lot of things in a different light.

You are Gods child and he did not make you as beautiful as you are for some one who probably has not even learned anything while going through hard times to criticizee you without punishment.

Pray for him and love your self even more than you do already.
 
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