Weird situation so plz help 10 points to best answer!?

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Shannon D

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my bf asked me yesterday if i liked another guy (we will call the other guy joe) but i said no and then my bf said that we always come over to his soccer field when joe plays..... and i said that one of my other friends likes joe (which is a lie though) and we sit there behind the goals cuz it is fun (me and my gals are a bit weird lol )

soo i am kinda dissapointed that my bf would think that i wouldnt be loyal to him so my immediate idea was to cut this joe out of my life a bit so that i prove to my bf that i DONT like joe. so yesterday on msn joe spoke to me and i said I dont want to talk to u and so joe keeps asking me why and i just said cuz something happened and he now keeps asking stuff like tell me and i am refusing to. so wat should i say to joe when he keeps asking me cuz he has also been bugging me today . I DONT WANT TO LIE TO HIM BUT HE WOULD THINK THIS SITUATION IS WEIRD AND SILLY

and also wat can i do to prove to my bf that i dont like joe and that i really like him?
well it isnt like my bf went spastic when he asked the Q
he just said do u like joe? and i said no and then he said about the soccer field sitch
after that he let it go
the only thing that bothers me is that he asked me in the first place and thought like that

he hasnt mentioned it since
 
First of all reassure yor bf that he is the one you really care about and that him being so damn insecure just isnt right. Men have a tendency of being insecure, jealous, and jump on ideas as if they were real. Talk to him calmy remember to REASSURE him that you care.Also tell him that its immature to think things like that unless there is actual reasoning behind his beliefs. As for joe, talk to him. theres nothing wrong with talking to him just as long as nothing inappropriate is said. Tell joe thet your bf thought you liked him but dont let joe get too full of himself(guys tend to do that too)

comunication is the ONLY way that you can end this problem, remember that. If you cant communicate thoughts clearly then this problem will never be fixed
 
It is weird and silly.Tell ur bf dat he shud mind his own business...What if u did like joe??? It's nt like ur cheating or anything like dat, jus keep it casual. And tell joe dat U need some space from him for now, and when da time is right u'll explain everything to him
 
I don't think its fair to Joe that your ignoring him and he has no idea why I also think that you should tell joe the situation. As for your boyfriend if you think him being angry is weird and silly and you think if you told joe he would think its weird and silly then mabey it is and you should explain to your boyfriend that you don't like Joe that he has nothing to worry about and tell your bf that he should trust u more instead of being jealous and/or paraniod to the point that you feel you should stop going somewhere as much because Joe is there.
 
WELL...
FOR JOE:: U SHOULD TELL HiM THE TRUTH AND TELL HiM TO STAY OUT UR LiFE
FOR UR BF:: DO SOMTHiN FOR HiM THAT U WOULD NEVER DO FOR ANYONE ELSE
 
I think your choice of cutting joe out for a little bit to prove your point to your boyfriend is a good one. Maybe you shouldn't cut joe out totally though, it could ruin your friendship. I would tell joe that things have gotten complicated in your relationship with your boyfriend and you and that you just need space so you guys can fix things. if you do that, you won't be lying to joe and you will be also helping things with your boyfriend.
 
explain the situation to him, im sure he will be like, ok then we wont talk for a while until he lets it go, he will probably understand
 
i'd say fill joe in on your little ordeal.
then try your best to explain to your bf that you just like soccer and joe is a friend. if he really knows you he'll trust you.

dont cut joe out of your life, he didnt do anything but try to help

another possibility, get your friend that "likes joe" to go on a double date with you and your bf, on that double date prove to your bf that you could care less about joe
 
If you like joe tell him you do. If he don't tell him you don't like joe. If you like your bf you should be glad that he likes you that much. But if he's not letting you talk to other guys you need to tell him that you need to still be able to talk to your friends because your not trippin if he just talks to other girls. If aren't really caring that is. If he hasn't been caring for a while just move on unless he's avipding you. If he's avoiding you you need to get him alone somewhere and talk to him.
 
Just tell his that his your boyfriend has some issues with you two being friends and if he has anything to say about that, just tell him well sorry but I want to make my boyfriend happy. Or just keep ignoring him or tell him none of his business .

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well a couple things... it sounds like you do like joe but if you dont then telling your bf that should be enough but if out of respect for your bf you want to back away from joe then tell him that even if he thinks it is silly it is the only thing that will let him know your serious ignore joe. block him if you have to its not that hard responding at all will just encourage him
 
lets see tell him your in a situation right now and you have to cut him lose for awhile and it would be great if he lay off too but say it in a nice and polite manner. just so he follows what you say and if he doesn't u can cut the act and get mad at him
 
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