:/ weird family stuff, my family has gone insane, help?

[scuba steve]

Okay, so first off, I'm 17 going to be a senior and for the past 10 years my step father has been extremely verbally abusive and some times even physically. No matter the countless times he hitt my mom and she promised me she would never go back, she eventually did. She even would blame it on me, saying if I was better he wouldn't do this, and other stuff, which Okay i know isn't my fault. But my mom started attending these boot camp classes and her and the trainer became extremely close, eventually my step dad found out, beat my mom chipped her tooth and my mom finally got enough courage to leave my step dad for good.
Well that was a good thing, she said she was doing this "for me, to save me, to give me a good last year of being a kid." But as soon as my step dad was kicked out, her personal trainer moved in. I wish I could explain to you how stupid he is. He has offered to buy me fake ids, he has made comments about "how i'm fat." he's made comments about getting me high and all this other stuff, which i don't really care about, but my mom is about to lose her kids to my step dad and she's inviting this sketchy guy to be with us when he is obviously not good for our family at all. He was living out of his car until he moved in with us. She forces me to watch her smaller kids 5 and 9 which i usually watch them five days a week. She doesn't have a job, we have no money, my step dad refuses to pay child support, my mom refuses to get a job. my mom spends all the money we have on her hair, her nails, hanging out with her personal trainer, going to movies with him. She constantly leaves me to hang and dry too. Since all of our phones got shut off due to my step dad refusing to pay child support she will say she's going out on a jog around 3sh and wont return until midnight even knowing that I've made plans, and when I ask her why she does something so mean she says "i'm an adult and i do not have to adhere to your plans."
Today was the breaking point. I've been sick for one week, and i've been begging her to get my a doctors appointment, but she's refused until today, so she made me an appointment. she told me she was going to meet me there, but instead i ended up waiting at the doctors 3 house for her to come, but she never showed and they wouldn't treat me without an adult, so I went home. Still i have yet to see a doctor and i feel sicker and sicker.

I just don't know what to do. Everything keeps getting worse and worse. I can't live with my real dad, or anyone else really. I'm going crazy and I don't know what to do. I feel like no one in the my house cares about my needs or anything. It's really just all about my mom and making sure she feels good. Can you give me any advice?

 

[dreamweaver]

I agree call socail services and get you and your siblings out of there your mom is living some kind of wierd life here she is not taking care of any of you call the child abuse hotline and when you turn 18 get into college or join the military do you not have any relatives you can talk to call the one eight hundred number for child abuse

 

[typerchic34]

I just want to give you a hug. So sad the stuff your mom is putting you through. It's almost like she expects you to be the adult which it sounds like you pretty much are. Is there an aunt, uncle, grandparent, cousin or someone you can talk to or go live with? Maybe even talk to a school counselor when you go back to school? You need to reach out to someone at least until you get through your last year. When you turn 18 don't feel guilty to move out of your mom's house. It wasn't you who chose the abusive men or had the other kids. Sometimes in order for us to survive we need to break away from our primary group. Reach out to someone while you can, someone at a church, a neighbor?? Good luck.