We have stopped having sex...?

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My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 3 years now, we are both 18 years old. We have had sex in the past and we both really enjoyed it. But now she is going to university in a different province then i do so we only get to see eachother about once every 5 or 6 weeks. My girlfriend is fairly religious and when she went to confession at a church by her university the minister told her that she cant keep haing sex and knowing that its wrong and just confess it so we have stopped having sex all together. This is a difficult situation because we only get to see each other we she comes back (which is not very often). Please help i dont know what to do
We are only 18 and are no where near ready for marriage
We have done other sexual things since her decision not to have sex, its not even the no sex part its the intimacy that goes along with sex that i miss
 
You need to ask yourself if you love her and want to be with her for the rest of your life then why not ask her to marry you? You may seem young to be getting married at your age but your girlfriend's beliefs and feelings are important and you cant ask her to change those. What you can ask yourself is can you accept them? Are you planning to marry her in the future? If so just pop that question sooner than you may have originally planned! I understand marrying someone who lives in a different province and goes to university would be tough, but is she worth it?
 
If she's that religious, and you care about her...marry her or leave her alone...that's the right thing to do
 
Unfortunately you can't change her religious beliefs, which i know is hard for you considering you used to have sex in the past. You are both only young so you shouldn't be thinking about rushing into marriage for the sake of sex but i'm just wondering what exactly she means by no sex at all? Does she just mean intercourse because if she does then there are other things you can do to satisfy each other without any penetration. Try & have an open & honest talk to her when the times right.
 
If you love her, you have to respect her enough to respect her decision not to keep having premarital sex. Which is a sin. If you cannot respect that and masturbate until marriage, then you need to break up with her and let her find someone who loves her enough to control themselves.
 
Well Mawia is sort of right, but you should either split up, or have a break until she finishes University, or ask her to marry you, if you love her.
It wouldn't be against religion, but she is at University and you're both only 18, too young to marry.
It's quite a dilemma. If you can't handle not having sex, you should split up then. :(
Good luck!
 
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