We had sex before,but now he doesn't want to cuz he values the friendship more...

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...than before. Are there feelings? We used to be friends with benefit. We hang out a lot, we enjoy each other's company and we have sex. But recently, he's been declining offers to make out, saying that he 'values the friendship we have' and 'I don't wanna hurt you'. Is that a sign that he has mustered feelings for me? He also showed signs of jealousy when I go out with other guys. How can I be sure he has feelings?
 
its a sign of love...dont listen to what the other people say about how hes playing mind games and stuff.

when a guy really falls in love with a girl the thought of having sex with them becomes strange/akward. Even if before all they could think about was to have sex with the person...
 
I think during your "friends w/ benefits" period of time, he started to develop feelings for you and he realized maybe yer worth more than just a booty call. And he's trying to tell you that he wants to start over by being just friends and build up to an actual relationship from there, and the only way for you to take him seriously is if he stops fooling around with you so that he can have a chance to treat you like a real lady and show you genuine affection instead of using you for pleasure. You also said he seems jealous when yer with other guys, that means he definitely feels something for you. I think you should talk to him and find out what's really going on. He seems like a good guy if he's willing to put aside his own personal pleasure just so that he can potentially have a relationship with you, that's a really respectful thing to do.
 
no, i think that he just realized that maybe you have feelings for him, and that he doesn't want anything serious with you, or maybe he met someone else he has feelings for, so he doesn't want to continue cause he doesn't want to hurt you even more. If he really wanted something serious with you I think he would have told you, i mean he already knows you guys are physically attracted to each other and are comfortable enough to even have sex, so if he liked you he shouldn't have any problem asking you out. so my answer is no he has no feelings for you.

EDIT- CAUSE IF NOT THEN WHY WOULD HE SAY THAT YOU'D BE THE ONE GETTING HURT, IF HE HAD FEELINGS FOR YOU THEN HE'D BE THE ONE HURT NOT YOU
 
I hate to say this, but I don't really know any guys who are mature enough to give up sex because they want a real relationship. If he was interested in you, I imagine he would probably continue with the sex and then try to snag you as his girlfriend in addition to, not instead of.
 
For a guy to stop wanting the fringe benefits, it usually means that he's gotten over you, or found someone new. (my experience) But this guy may be different.

The best person to ask would be him. The fact that he said he "doesn't want to hurt you" probably means that he thinks you are getting attached to him, and crossing the line of benefits to coupledom.
But like i said, ask him.
 
he plays mind games. get rid of him.


and to be sure....tell him your done with him. and see how he reacts.
 
either he is really a good guy and really doesn't wanna hurt you cuz if you guys keep having sex it will end up hurting you somehow sooner or later, or he is a bad guy and is just tired of you, maybe he's f*cked you too much and wants to try another girl!!!
you gonna have to figure it out yourself!!!
 
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