we dont agree on how to discipline our kids?

[awkwardly balanced]

Time outs work, when done with consistency.

Spankings teach violence - surprise! Your child is kicking, biting, scratching, and slapping.

You are adults - you need to be on the same page. Your gf will never spank a child, (good for her) so there will be no consistency if you insist on this. Without consistency, there will be continued chaos.

Look up how to do effective time outs - 20 minutes to establish time outs is not out of the realm of affects - and your child is worth spending 20 minutes to send a positive and loving discipline. Swatting her to get your way causes her to swat when she wants her way.

Watch Super Nanny to get an idea for effective limits - time outs and other methods to get control of your household and be on the same page.

***Now that Atheist Nun has gotten that out of her system, you need to do what is right for your kids. You know that she is not describing YOUR kids with such derogatory descriptions. Look at your kids and give them the chance at happiness that they deserve - and that is consistent (between parents, not with you ruling and mom disagreeing) parenting. The problems you are seeing are because you are not on the same page - and if you continue to insist on spanking (you know your wife will not hit someone with any consistency - it is aversive to someone who doesn't believe in it) or look on with disapproval while your daughter gives your wife a hard time for 20 minutes without involving yourself (you can't NOT communicate - if you are not helping your gf, you are giving your daughter a clear message that you disrespect your gf, and if you don't respect her, you are modeling that for your daughter).

Get your household together. I would never tolerate anyone talking about my kids like that - what a hateful way to view children.

 

[awkwardly balanced]

Time outs work, when done with consistency.

Spankings teach violence - surprise! Your child is kicking, biting, scratching, and slapping.

You are adults - you need to be on the same page. Your gf will never spank a child, (good for her) so there will be no consistency if you insist on this. Without consistency, there will be continued chaos.

Look up how to do effective time outs - 20 minutes to establish time outs is not out of the realm of affects - and your child is worth spending 20 minutes to send a positive and loving discipline. Swatting her to get your way causes her to swat when she wants her way.

Watch Super Nanny to get an idea for effective limits - time outs and other methods to get control of your household and be on the same page.

***Now that Atheist Nun has gotten that out of her system, you need to do what is right for your kids. You know that she is not describing YOUR kids with such derogatory descriptions. Look at your kids and give them the chance at happiness that they deserve - and that is consistent (between parents, not with you ruling and mom disagreeing) parenting. The problems you are seeing are because you are not on the same page - and if you continue to insist on spanking (you know your wife will not hit someone with any consistency - it is aversive to someone who doesn't believe in it) or look on with disapproval while your daughter gives your wife a hard time for 20 minutes without involving yourself (you can't NOT communicate - if you are not helping your gf, you are giving your daughter a clear message that you disrespect your gf, and if you don't respect her, you are modeling that for your daughter).

Get your household together. I would never tolerate anyone talking about my kids like that - what a hateful way to view children.

 

[Ryan]

we have a 2 year old(drake) and 4 year old(alexxis) They fight all the time and dont listen. Alexxis knows she has to clean her toys up before she goes to bed and now when we tell her to she screams "i dont want to" and tries kicking,biting,scratching, or slapping us when we tell her she has to. She had to clean some blocks up and she threw 3 of the blocks at Drake's head. She pinches him until he cries & if we say anything to her she tells us to shut up or to get out of her house. my gf doesnt believe in spanking, i think timeout is the stupidest "punishment" ever. Ive spanked her before and she stops doing it and listens, If my gf puts her in timeout she has to spend 20 minutes fighting her to get her to stay and then Alexxis gets up and does it again. This morning they were suppose to be sleeping and they were coloring on the wall with crayons so their in there now cleaning it off and my gfs yelling at me saying there to young to understand why. Lexxi's almost 5 she knows what shes doing and Drake looks at us and does stuff to see what we do. she refuses to spank and im not wasting time with timeout. taking stuff away works until they forget or find a different toy to play with.

How do we agree on how to discipline them? they know if they do stuff when im not here then they wont get in trouble.

 

[awkwardly balanced]

Time outs work, when done with consistency.

Spankings teach violence - surprise! Your child is kicking, biting, scratching, and slapping.

You are adults - you need to be on the same page. Your gf will never spank a child, (good for her) so there will be no consistency if you insist on this. Without consistency, there will be continued chaos.

Look up how to do effective time outs - 20 minutes to establish time outs is not out of the realm of affects - and your child is worth spending 20 minutes to send a positive and loving discipline. Swatting her to get your way causes her to swat when she wants her way.

Watch Super Nanny to get an idea for effective limits - time outs and other methods to get control of your household and be on the same page.

***Now that Atheist Nun has gotten that out of her system, you need to do what is right for your kids. You know that she is not describing YOUR kids with such derogatory descriptions. Look at your kids and give them the chance at happiness that they deserve - and that is consistent (between parents, not with you ruling and mom disagreeing) parenting. The problems you are seeing are because you are not on the same page - and if you continue to insist on spanking (you know your wife will not hit someone with any consistency - it is aversive to someone who doesn't believe in it) or look on with disapproval while your daughter gives your wife a hard time for 20 minutes without involving yourself (you can't NOT communicate - if you are not helping your gf, you are giving your daughter a clear message that you disrespect your gf, and if you don't respect her, you are modeling that for your daughter).

Get your household together. I would never tolerate anyone talking about my kids like that - what a hateful way to view children.