Was this proper restaurant etiquette?

Molly

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I recently went with a friend to a restaurant that is the kind where you wait in line, place your order, they give you a number to put on your table and you wait to bring them your food. (A local restaurant, not a chain.)

Anyway, it was very busy and we wanted to sit outside but there were no tables available outside. Once we were near ordering (like 2nd place in line) I saw a table clear up outside and went to sit at it to save it for us. I noticed a bag near the table but I didn't really think much of it, and was just going to tell the waitress that I thought someone had left their bag.

I'd been sitting there for a minute (my friend is ordering for both of us at this point) and a girl came up to me and said that I had to move and she was sitting there and that's why her bag was there. She was in the very end of the line, at least 15 people behind us. I just kind of stared at her for a while and then was like "OK whatever" because I didn't feel like arguing (she was very nasty) and was OK with sitting inside, but was pretty pissed off for a while.

She was wrong, right? If you want to save a table at a place like that, I believe you have to be actually sitting at the table, not just plop your bag down when you get there. You shouldn't leave your bag lying around anyway!
P.S. It was at least 10 minutes from the time I tried to sit there to the time she ordered and sat down.
Maybe I wasn't clear on the timing -- my friend was ordering for both of us as I sat down. I guess we could have waited a minute or two, but no one was in front of us, so the only people who would have taken the table were people behind us who hadn't ordered yet either...
She was with at least one other girl; i.e. she wasn't putting her bag there to save it for herself because she couldn't sit there, but because I guess she wanted to wait with her friend in line. They were small, round tables -- not ideal for sharing with strangers. :)
 
In college I worked in a pizzeria with a similar ordering/seating system. Ideally, we wanted people to find seats AFTER ordering. By putting her bag down before getting in line, the woman "hogged" the table for 10 minutes more than she needed to. This translates into fewer tables, longer waits, and less revenue for the restaurant. So, you are right - she was wrong.

But, I would say that the same reasoning can be applied to you. You tried to save a table while your friend ordered for both of you. In your case, it was probably only a couple minutes instead of 10, but in principal it's the same thing.
 
She did the exact same thing that you did except she substituted a bag for a person.

Maybe the proper etiquette would be to wait until you have ordered to get a table, that is what I would do.
 
If you were eating alone, you'd do the same thing...put your bag down or something like maybe a jacket on the back of the chair, anything to save the table. So I don't hold it against her and think that since she got to the table first with her bag, it was "her table". However, I would have suggested the two of you and this gal share the table. Hey, you never know, you might have met a new friend. I say the more the merrier.
 
If you were eating alone, you'd do the same thing...put your bag down or something like maybe a jacket on the back of the chair, anything to save the table. So I don't hold it against her and think that since she got to the table first with her bag, it was "her table". However, I would have suggested the two of you and this gal share the table. Hey, you never know, you might have met a new friend. I say the more the merrier.
 
Hey, she was doing what you were doing except that she thought of it first. The restaurant should come up with some rules about not being able to take a table until you've ordered and are ready to sit down--whether your next in line or at the end of it.
 
I agree with you.

Order then sit (unless you're ordering for someone with a broken foot or something like that).

Next time take the bag to the lost and found - that will distract her from the table issue...lol.
 
Both of you tried the same thing except for the time difference, but in any case, the restaurant needs to rethink this system, sounds very cheap and tacky, I would never go to any restaurant like that.
 
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