was i wrong to complain about my new housemate bringing girls to have sex...

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...(walls are too thin)? i just moved into a house. we are all new postgraduate international students. there are 3 guys and i am the only girl. on monday agreed that we would keep noise down (music, parties) during the week. next day the youngest one (his 21 and his room is next to mine) brings a girl to the house in the middle of the night, and has sex for hours.i heard everything in way too much detail (it was disgusting). i was annoyed but decided to not complain since it was the first time. but two days later he brings another girl. they arrived talking loud and it was 3am so it really made me angry. i was half asleep but still decided to complain. it was embarrassing cause my voice was all shaky and odd but i was really upset. i told him to remember i was in the house and to show some respect. he apologised and then a few minutes later the girl left, cause she saw me and heard me complain about the same happening on tuesday. then i felt embarrassed and guilty but i really didnt want to go through the same embarrassing situation once again. now i dont want to go home because i dnt want to see the guy again. i dnt know him well so i dont know if he could want to take revenge or if he isnt that type i still dnt want to go through the situation of having to discuss it. i cant move out cause i signed a long contract. now i dont know what to do....someone suggested i talk to him an explain how i feel but i'm just not happy with the idea. i just dnt want my house to become a motel.. the guy is really showing no sign of interest in studying just partying so i fear the year will be a nightmare with him in the house.
 
I think it would be in your best interest to have all the house mates there at one time for a meeting. Then you wont be alone with him, if like you say, he might be the revengeful type. You already agreed to keep the noise down during the week, so you need to reinforce that point. All of the house mates need to agree on everything. Maybe if all he wants to do is party, he could find out the schedule of everyone and be there when everyone else is in school. Its his life, you cant or wont change him, so dont even try. If he wants to party when he should be going to classes, thats his decision. So, if he wants to party, when you are in class, that would work out better for everyone, and you wont be disturbed at 3 in the am. Everyone coming together on the same page will reinforce the rules much better. I hope this helps.
 
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