Misunderstood
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I just came out of a relationship 4 months ago in whcih i was lied to, ripped off financially, manipulated and hurt emotionally. I not so long ago began talking to a new girl via the net. At first it was okay and i was happy being myself and sharing happy things with her. But after xmas it all turned for the worse. I had a sad xmas and was a little down. However, the girl used this to attack and degrade me. Over time also i started to notice her attitude changing with me. She became quite nasty towards me. Also i got many mixed messages like I complimented her on her hair. She told me that compliments made her uncomfortable. Yet at the same time she told me that she did her hair up in a way because she knew i'd like it. She just wanted to be 'friends' but at the same time flirted with me. But hated me if I responded to or replied i nthe same way. She also stopped talking to me at one point. I texted her a couple of times. Yet she claimed that i never tried to contact her. When I mentioned the text i sent she said that she doesnt respond to words like "hello" or "how are you." She started to become quite abusive and even out right laughed at me a few tiems. It was all very ugly. So I decided to leave her alone. i am very depressed right now because her cruelty reminded me of my ex and another girl who really broke my heart some months ago. The manipulation hurt a lot too. And the lies and complete unappreciation for me, my time and and my compassion. Sadly i can not meet any woman who respects me. Its always this abuse thing. later I learned that the girl was goign to therapy 3 times a week for her mind. And that she 'bit' her last boyfriend. Who she claimed was abusive. yet her whole behaivor towards me was very abusive. I have had many bad experiences with women and am not really seeing them in a good light any more. I have been lied to and treated like dirt by so many. I do not allow this, I leave. But i am just so unlucky. Its always about abuse. When I try to talk to others about my feelings. They attack me and blame me. it seems to be a trend these days to blame the man. When a woman is beaten by a bad husbandis it her fault? Women just never show me ant compassion. I often get blaket statements made about me from women. Women who don't even know me, my life, my history. yet they always act as if they are superior to me and talk down to me. That is what the girl did, all of the time. And criticized everything I would say. She wanted t ocontrol my every word. It was horrible. Was I correct to walk away? Nothing could have come from staying in contact right?