Welcome to YA, fellow virgin.
I still have the V-card as well.... Cosmo did a story on this in their most recent issue.
I won't reveal my age, but I will say that I am older than the "oldest" virgin in the issue.
Why has society progressed to a point where it is ASSUMED that sexual stuff will occur on every date? Why is waiting until the third date for sex considered to be an act of major restraint? Society has become oversexualized, the value of waiting has become understated, and those of us who are waiting are made out to look like frigid prudes instead of the highly sexual beings that we are, who are just waiting to place sex at the right place, at the right time, with the right person, to avoid unpleasant consequences.
Keep doing your thing. It isn't a dead idea. Those of us who hold on to this idea - I like to think of us as "old school" - we're vintage, but we're not dead. And there are guys out there who are old school as well. They can be harder to find, but they do exist.
Some practical advice..... don't spill right away to a guy that you're a virgin. Your conduct should set the course for your relationship. The quicker you move physically, the sooner you'll be pushed to come to that point and have to slam on the brakes and say "I'm not ready."
If you don't want to kiss him on the first date, then don't. Tell him you had a fabulous time and you would love to see him again. If he's a true gentleman - the kind worth spending time with - he will understand and won't impose his will on you.
Avoid long amounts of time spent together alone doing nothing. Postponing sex is harder when you have no agenda for your "date" so be sure you have something to do other than stare at the windshield of his car. Lingering in or near the bedroom will escalate things for certain.
And most importantly remember that the right guy is out there, he is worth waiting for, you are worth waiting for, and more importantly, if he questions your decision to wait, that is a HUGE sign that he is NOT the right guy.
