missbendall
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I no longer live with my parents, (step mother and dad). The last few years have been very rough for me. I grew up with an alcoholic, severely bipolar mother who is completely... delusional and dysfunctional. I had a strange and unusual childhood, to say the least. My counselor believes that I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder.
I stopped living with my mom when I was 15, went to a military school to get away from her, and my dad's new wife who has a beef with me would not let me come back to their house unless I finished the program. I never got into drugs, sex or alcohol... I saw myself as a pretty good kid with a lot of shit going on. So, by going to the military school I endured MORE unwarranted crap.
Like I said, my step mom would not let me come back to my dad's house unless I finished the program - from this you can probably guess that my step mom felt that I was a bad kid or something. She has some issues, and even my dad has admitted to me that he thinks she's a horribly selfish person who has treated me like shit. For some reason, she worships her daughter who is honestly nothing special, and whenever I get ANY attention or compliments from anyone, she just gets really angry. There are major double standards from how she treats her daughter and how she treats me.
She treats me as if I'm some disgusting nuisance, and I've gotten to the point where I just say to myself, "This women has issues and they way she treats me is not a reflection of who I am." My counselor has tried reasoning with her, and even my dad has gotten on her. For the most part, my dad is a total pushover who hardly ever stands up for me. It hurts...
Many people have told my biological brother and I that they can see how she has treated me and they think it is profoundly unfair. I really felt stuck in that situation.
ANYWAYS, I no longer live with them, and am on my own. I'm able to overlook my dad's mean behavior - not standing up for me when I needed it the most. I can see that it must have been hard for him... it's either me or his wife. And she is like, dominant and the queen bee of the household.
My step aunt and step uncle (my step mother's sister and brother in law) have become advocates to me over the last two years. They used to tell me that they see how my step mom was acting, and they believe she is starting to regress with age...
My uncle had a very rough upbringing with his own mother, like I did, almost exactly. I was able to confide in him for a long time. It's strange though, a lot of times when he would claim to try to make me feel better about the situation with my step mom, he would ALWAYS bring up the mean things she's ever said about me.
My step mom and dad always hold a lunch with her family at their house, and for some reason, my step mom has nothing better going on in her life, so she talks horribly about me. And I mean, horrible, vicious things... it still hurts me. She always does it when my dad isn't present. She always dominates the conversation, I hear, too. If she can't get a word in, she starts to raise her voice and throw her hands all over until she gets attention.
Anyways, I had a really hard year this past year in 12th grade. I went to a very, very small school. In 11th grade, things were good at school, despite my home situation. Even though there weren't that many kids, I was friends with everyone. This year was alright at the beginning, I have always been outgoing, but my depression got worse toward October... I withdrew and lost my friends at school. Luckily, I had friends outside of school but because of my depression, I didn't feel like hanging out with anyone. I kind of stayed in my room to escape from my step mom.
I mean, I really didn't even associate with my family. I just merely lived there, it seemed like. I felt like nobody there appreciated me and my dad put up with my step mom's shit. I didn't even eat dinner with them... I mean, that's how distant I made myself.
Obviously, when they got married, at the beginning I always was with the family and stuff, but once my step mom started acting this way, I just wanted to be safe and get away from her as much as possible.
So anyways, during this last year at school, life was horrible. I was incredibly depressed. All the kids in my small class were literally 4 years younger, and I get sick of hearing the 9th grade bullshit from girls...
I started dating a guy online also. I almost feel like he was the only thing that made me happy. It's really unfortunate.
Anyways, my aunt called my boyfriend behind my back and asked him not to visit me until my dad got back from a trip. I was just kind of angry and told her I felt she was sabotaging me. I realize now that meeting by boyfriend on my turf, although not ideal, would have ruined what we had. I knew my step mom would sabotage the situation and treat him j
Should I disregard the hurtful things my uncle said? Should I just move on and stay strong and build a healthy life without those negative influences? My counselor says that sometimes when a person who is not a professional tries to help someone, things can get weird... they may not know how to cope after a while. I was too scared to tell my counselor exactly what he said, though. Maybe I should sometime.
I stopped living with my mom when I was 15, went to a military school to get away from her, and my dad's new wife who has a beef with me would not let me come back to their house unless I finished the program. I never got into drugs, sex or alcohol... I saw myself as a pretty good kid with a lot of shit going on. So, by going to the military school I endured MORE unwarranted crap.
Like I said, my step mom would not let me come back to my dad's house unless I finished the program - from this you can probably guess that my step mom felt that I was a bad kid or something. She has some issues, and even my dad has admitted to me that he thinks she's a horribly selfish person who has treated me like shit. For some reason, she worships her daughter who is honestly nothing special, and whenever I get ANY attention or compliments from anyone, she just gets really angry. There are major double standards from how she treats her daughter and how she treats me.
She treats me as if I'm some disgusting nuisance, and I've gotten to the point where I just say to myself, "This women has issues and they way she treats me is not a reflection of who I am." My counselor has tried reasoning with her, and even my dad has gotten on her. For the most part, my dad is a total pushover who hardly ever stands up for me. It hurts...
Many people have told my biological brother and I that they can see how she has treated me and they think it is profoundly unfair. I really felt stuck in that situation.
ANYWAYS, I no longer live with them, and am on my own. I'm able to overlook my dad's mean behavior - not standing up for me when I needed it the most. I can see that it must have been hard for him... it's either me or his wife. And she is like, dominant and the queen bee of the household.
My step aunt and step uncle (my step mother's sister and brother in law) have become advocates to me over the last two years. They used to tell me that they see how my step mom was acting, and they believe she is starting to regress with age...
My uncle had a very rough upbringing with his own mother, like I did, almost exactly. I was able to confide in him for a long time. It's strange though, a lot of times when he would claim to try to make me feel better about the situation with my step mom, he would ALWAYS bring up the mean things she's ever said about me.
My step mom and dad always hold a lunch with her family at their house, and for some reason, my step mom has nothing better going on in her life, so she talks horribly about me. And I mean, horrible, vicious things... it still hurts me. She always does it when my dad isn't present. She always dominates the conversation, I hear, too. If she can't get a word in, she starts to raise her voice and throw her hands all over until she gets attention.
Anyways, I had a really hard year this past year in 12th grade. I went to a very, very small school. In 11th grade, things were good at school, despite my home situation. Even though there weren't that many kids, I was friends with everyone. This year was alright at the beginning, I have always been outgoing, but my depression got worse toward October... I withdrew and lost my friends at school. Luckily, I had friends outside of school but because of my depression, I didn't feel like hanging out with anyone. I kind of stayed in my room to escape from my step mom.
I mean, I really didn't even associate with my family. I just merely lived there, it seemed like. I felt like nobody there appreciated me and my dad put up with my step mom's shit. I didn't even eat dinner with them... I mean, that's how distant I made myself.
Obviously, when they got married, at the beginning I always was with the family and stuff, but once my step mom started acting this way, I just wanted to be safe and get away from her as much as possible.
So anyways, during this last year at school, life was horrible. I was incredibly depressed. All the kids in my small class were literally 4 years younger, and I get sick of hearing the 9th grade bullshit from girls...
I started dating a guy online also. I almost feel like he was the only thing that made me happy. It's really unfortunate.
Anyways, my aunt called my boyfriend behind my back and asked him not to visit me until my dad got back from a trip. I was just kind of angry and told her I felt she was sabotaging me. I realize now that meeting by boyfriend on my turf, although not ideal, would have ruined what we had. I knew my step mom would sabotage the situation and treat him j
Should I disregard the hurtful things my uncle said? Should I just move on and stay strong and build a healthy life without those negative influences? My counselor says that sometimes when a person who is not a professional tries to help someone, things can get weird... they may not know how to cope after a while. I was too scared to tell my counselor exactly what he said, though. Maybe I should sometime.