Ugh, I need your opinions on my lifestyle?

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LG BT what do you think? I am 16 years old and have liked guys since maybe a year or two ago and came out this year to my friends. I went out with a REALLY effeminate guy which was a non-successful relationship. That's just a little background on me.

Alright, I don't know how do put this into a question per say, but I do know what I am wondering. I, myself find nothing annoying about effeminate gay guys nor "straight" gay guys (Idk how to say that) and I am pretty sure that I would be classified as an effeminate gay guy which I do NOT like. I do not want to be classified under a class that everyone finds annoying, and a little bit of myself finds effeminate gay guys annoying too. But I know down the line I would prefer a "straight" gay guy rather than an effeminate one and do now, but I'm afraid that I'm too "Femmy" for most "Straight" gay guys tastes. Is it possible for me to tone it down? I think I might just be "acting" the type a little, but I can't really stop or help it....

By effeminate I mean girlyish tone of voice and slight lisp ( I know that's a super sterotype of gays, but some of my friends say that I have it sometimes). And just...I don't want to be a femmy gay guy lol.
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Heh, I wish it were that easy Rev...but it's not :\
 
I feel the same way. My friends and family say I talk with a lisp and act femmy but in my head I dont see it or hear it. Idk. I[m in to masculine guys but thats just my taste and probably urs as well.
Just know that you cant change who you are and at the end of the day you'll feel a whole lot better if you just stay true to yourself.
 
It's as easy as you want it to be mary... only you can bring about the change, otherwise live with the stereotype and deal...
 
If you were "trying" to act feminine, you probable should ,but if you normally speak that way, don't worry about it!

If your friends don't like who you are, It makes more since, to make newer friends than to put on a show for the rest of your life.

Go Figure!
 
maybe you shouldnt be too selfconscious of how you act... that's where it all starts to be honest. I could remember when i was a kid people told me i was a bit effeminate, that's when i started to notice more and more of how i act but then i cant help it.. then when i stepped to highschool i told myself what the heck, im not going to put up with anything anymore so i just became myself and not care of how people feel, when i stepped to senior high i just naturally kinda stopped being effem.. and the most important thing is to be yourself be comfortable and it will come naturally.. and stop thinking of how people think of yourself.. :)
 
Well, by your post you know what the problem is.

Just quit acting effeminate.

Problem solved.

Duuuhhhh!
 
yep quite the acting act like a normal guy, no over exaggerated actions, speeches, no high pitched tone, be a young man. like u were before u come out, if u know u are gay don't act it. we don't care.
 
yep quite the acting act like a normal guy, no over exaggerated actions, speeches, no high pitched tone, be a young man. like u were before u come out, if u know u are gay don't act it. we don't care.
 
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