Ugh! 20 Year High School Reunion - Long Read
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luv_2_homeschool
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you know what honey? FUCK THEM! and fuck what they think about you... here are some options for you 
(1) dont go... do not give them the fucking satisfaction of passing judgement!
if they are still as shallow and cliquish and people usually are in high school, d
then why would you even bother?!?!
fuck them, and fuck what anyone else thinks of you! you know you are a good person! you are loved and adored by your husband and children... (isnt that what life is supposed to be about?)
or 2) if you honestly care about what they think, lie your ass off (well, not literally, im sure your hubby loves dat sheeit
think up a good fucking story of success... make sure you have all of your bases covered, come in there confident... like you own the fucking world, girl... let it be known that you are happy... how many of them are successful and TRULY HAPPY?!?! NOT MANY!!! happiness is something that money cant buy (thought i does make life a little easier =
(1) dont go... do not give them the fucking satisfaction of passing judgement!
if they are still as shallow and cliquish and people usually are in high school, d
then why would you even bother?!?!
fuck them, and fuck what anyone else thinks of you! you know you are a good person! you are loved and adored by your husband and children... (isnt that what life is supposed to be about?)
or 2) if you honestly care about what they think, lie your ass off (well, not literally, im sure your hubby loves dat sheeit
think up a good fucking story of success... make sure you have all of your bases covered, come in there confident... like you own the fucking world, girl... let it be known that you are happy... how many of them are successful and TRULY HAPPY?!?! NOT MANY!!! happiness is something that money cant buy (thought i does make life a little easier =
~~go with the flow~~
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Thanks for that post. Don't worry though I really am not stressing it, I'm more just posting my thoughts about the whole thing.
I do want to share something interesting I just found out though. The girl who looks so incredible and seems so damned happy and fun-loving is divorced and has no kids... well DUH! No wonder she looks so damned happy!
Anyway, I'm not too stressed. I wanted to go to the 10 but I just don't feel like sharing my mediocrity with people I never really knew that well in high school anyway. I was not popular, not loathed, just a lost face in the crowd that most knew my name, but not much else. You know, that girl? Definitely not someone who cares too much. I can't think of anyone in my class that I'm still in touch with aside from one girl who transferred before our senior year anyway so she's not considered an alumni.
I do want to share something interesting I just found out though. The girl who looks so incredible and seems so damned happy and fun-loving is divorced and has no kids... well DUH! No wonder she looks so damned happy!
Anyway, I'm not too stressed. I wanted to go to the 10 but I just don't feel like sharing my mediocrity with people I never really knew that well in high school anyway. I was not popular, not loathed, just a lost face in the crowd that most knew my name, but not much else. You know, that girl? Definitely not someone who cares too much. I can't think of anyone in my class that I'm still in touch with aside from one girl who transferred before our senior year anyway so she's not considered an alumni.
tfutrell_crt
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Honey,
Go. Get drunk. Throw up on the girl you were talking about. Have fun. Fuck them and whatever they think. Your life isn't about them, its about you, your man, and your kids.
Go. Get drunk. Throw up on the girl you were talking about. Have fun. Fuck them and whatever they think. Your life isn't about them, its about you, your man, and your kids.
GCF pH3N0M3N0N
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My sister goes to all of her reunions, and has a blast. Of course, she's the type of person who has kept in touch with her good friends over the years, and it's a chance for all of them to be in one place at the same time.
I'm almost the opposite. I've had no contact with anyone I knew then, and wouldn't really be interested in pursuing an opportunity to do so. I can barely remember their names, except for a couple of people, and they aren't (or weren't) the type to go to reunions.
You might consider this a chance to take stock of your life and your dreams, Honey. I am no way saying that you are not successful, right now, this minute. You're alive, you love and are loved, and you aren't worried about the petty bull that most folks still think is important. Plus, when the equipment is working, you're a DJ on an internet show. How many of those high school alumni can say that?
I'm a firm believer in long term plans and I don't think it's ever too late to begin a new adventure. Even with munchkins who take up a lot of your time, energy, and focus, there are things you can do to pursue your ambitions.
That last class you need for the degree? See if there is an alternative at an adult college where the class charges are a lot less than a regular school, and the hours are scheduled for folks who aren't full time students.
Want to have that novel you wrote published? Start with writing down the stories you tell your kids, or offer to read them at the local library.
If you do decide to go to the reunion, remember that almost everybody is less than totally satisfied with where they are in their lives, no matter how boastful they can be. Be proud of who you are, what you've done, and always remember - when you wear sparkly toenail polish, you've got a little mysterious excitement in every step you take.
I'm almost the opposite. I've had no contact with anyone I knew then, and wouldn't really be interested in pursuing an opportunity to do so. I can barely remember their names, except for a couple of people, and they aren't (or weren't) the type to go to reunions.
You might consider this a chance to take stock of your life and your dreams, Honey. I am no way saying that you are not successful, right now, this minute. You're alive, you love and are loved, and you aren't worried about the petty bull that most folks still think is important. Plus, when the equipment is working, you're a DJ on an internet show. How many of those high school alumni can say that?
I'm a firm believer in long term plans and I don't think it's ever too late to begin a new adventure. Even with munchkins who take up a lot of your time, energy, and focus, there are things you can do to pursue your ambitions.
That last class you need for the degree? See if there is an alternative at an adult college where the class charges are a lot less than a regular school, and the hours are scheduled for folks who aren't full time students.
Want to have that novel you wrote published? Start with writing down the stories you tell your kids, or offer to read them at the local library.
If you do decide to go to the reunion, remember that almost everybody is less than totally satisfied with where they are in their lives, no matter how boastful they can be. Be proud of who you are, what you've done, and always remember - when you wear sparkly toenail polish, you've got a little mysterious excitement in every step you take.
I for one don't know why you'd want to go in the first place?
Obviously if you're still friends with any of them, then well, you're still friends with them and need no reunion to see or talk to them.
For the others? Who fucking cares. If you didn't care enough to keep in touch, why bother now?
It just seems weird to me, but hey, I'm a weird guy. Do what makes you feel good HIH!
Obviously if you're still friends with any of them, then well, you're still friends with them and need no reunion to see or talk to them.
For the others? Who fucking cares. If you didn't care enough to keep in touch, why bother now?
It just seems weird to me, but hey, I'm a weird guy. Do what makes you feel good HIH!
Haha, Caffy. Toenail polish is an aging woman's best friend, I have on pretty purple right now.
Turetz, 5 years is not enough time for the cliques to fade and people to mature as much as they do in 10. As I said before at my 10 year reunion it was really amazing how well everyone got along. Nobody put down anyone else. The cliques (although obviously those old friends still sat together) really didn't exist. Everyone mingled with everyone. The biggest dork from our class had the hottest wife and he was the life of the party. The most popular guy I'm not sure even came, but other "popular" people led pretty much humdrum lives. Obviously the "nerds" were the most successful, most had phd's and lectured here and there. Nobody was famous. We all had a blast.
I think my anxiety about this one though is because of my current financial situation. When you're broke it slaughters your self esteem. I'm sure in a year, I'll be fine. I'll probably end up going because for the most part everyone that I remember from high school still socialize with me and it's fun to swap stories.
Oh, and DG as disgustingly pretty and fun-loving as the girl organizing this is she is an incredibly sweet person and was in school as well. I'd not want to do that to her. Well, maybe deep down it might give me the slightest bit of enjoyment to watch somebody else do it but well, you know.
Turetz, 5 years is not enough time for the cliques to fade and people to mature as much as they do in 10. As I said before at my 10 year reunion it was really amazing how well everyone got along. Nobody put down anyone else. The cliques (although obviously those old friends still sat together) really didn't exist. Everyone mingled with everyone. The biggest dork from our class had the hottest wife and he was the life of the party. The most popular guy I'm not sure even came, but other "popular" people led pretty much humdrum lives. Obviously the "nerds" were the most successful, most had phd's and lectured here and there. Nobody was famous. We all had a blast.
I think my anxiety about this one though is because of my current financial situation. When you're broke it slaughters your self esteem. I'm sure in a year, I'll be fine. I'll probably end up going because for the most part everyone that I remember from high school still socialize with me and it's fun to swap stories.
Oh, and DG as disgustingly pretty and fun-loving as the girl organizing this is she is an incredibly sweet person and was in school as well. I'd not want to do that to her. Well, maybe deep down it might give me the slightest bit of enjoyment to watch somebody else do it but well, you know.
Electric Pandemic
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Was surfing for info on what to wear to 20-year reunion and came across your post. I related on so many levels--so decided to sign up!
I went to my 10 year, too, and definitely found that people had mellowed out and the cliques were no longer. Of course, people gravitated to those they hung out with in school to catch up, but there were also a lot of people getting acquainted with each other for the first time, myself included. It was surprising to find that I actually had common ground with people I never thought I would--and those I thought would be friends forever, there was nothing. Which is probably why I let those friendships fizzle out over the years in the first place.
I haven't stayed in touch with anyone really, with the exception of my twin sister. She stays in touch with a few of our friends, so I get a lot of the scoop from her. We've decided to make it a Sisters Weekend and will drive up together, leaving the kids at home with the dads. I think that's what I'm looking forward to the most.
The reunion part of it I'm slightly dreading--mainly finding something to hide the weight as I just had a baby a few months ago and with only 10 weeks left to get the extra weight off, it's not looking good--definitely crunch time! My sister had a baby in December and she's in the same boat. Misery loves company! I've decided to buy whatever looks decent and doesn't make me feel self-conscious. No matter the cost.
Have you thought about looking for something in a consignment store? My area has several and with many of the "ladies who lunch" not wearing special occasion attire more than one time, there is quite a great selection of items--and in really good shape. I'm not sure, but the stores may even offer a layaway plan.
With regard to the update survey--focus on the positives. Maybe just answer the questions with humor instead of the reality. I'm sure there are many who don't have loving spouses, great kids (or any kids), or feel stuck in their chosen careers.
I still don't know what I want to do when I "grow up" either, but I've decided that I'm going to go to the reunion and network. Maybe some great opportunity will knock on my door--or maybe not. But I won't know unless I go. It's definitely difficult to hear that Classmate X is a sahm living in a mansion in seventh heaven married to a cardiologist and Classmate Y runs her own p.r. firm (successful, of course). Especially as my hubby and I do the paycheck to paycheck gig.
But, I've also decided that once the reunion is over (and my credit card is paid off for whatever I purchase to wear) I'm going to save up for a life or career coach. Heck--maybe I'll meet one at the reunion! Have you ever considered this? It may be pricey, but the payoff may be priceless. I've nothing to lose at this point, so onward and upward!
I hope you decide to go!
I went to my 10 year, too, and definitely found that people had mellowed out and the cliques were no longer. Of course, people gravitated to those they hung out with in school to catch up, but there were also a lot of people getting acquainted with each other for the first time, myself included. It was surprising to find that I actually had common ground with people I never thought I would--and those I thought would be friends forever, there was nothing. Which is probably why I let those friendships fizzle out over the years in the first place.
I haven't stayed in touch with anyone really, with the exception of my twin sister. She stays in touch with a few of our friends, so I get a lot of the scoop from her. We've decided to make it a Sisters Weekend and will drive up together, leaving the kids at home with the dads. I think that's what I'm looking forward to the most.
The reunion part of it I'm slightly dreading--mainly finding something to hide the weight as I just had a baby a few months ago and with only 10 weeks left to get the extra weight off, it's not looking good--definitely crunch time! My sister had a baby in December and she's in the same boat. Misery loves company! I've decided to buy whatever looks decent and doesn't make me feel self-conscious. No matter the cost.
Have you thought about looking for something in a consignment store? My area has several and with many of the "ladies who lunch" not wearing special occasion attire more than one time, there is quite a great selection of items--and in really good shape. I'm not sure, but the stores may even offer a layaway plan.
With regard to the update survey--focus on the positives. Maybe just answer the questions with humor instead of the reality. I'm sure there are many who don't have loving spouses, great kids (or any kids), or feel stuck in their chosen careers.
I still don't know what I want to do when I "grow up" either, but I've decided that I'm going to go to the reunion and network. Maybe some great opportunity will knock on my door--or maybe not. But I won't know unless I go. It's definitely difficult to hear that Classmate X is a sahm living in a mansion in seventh heaven married to a cardiologist and Classmate Y runs her own p.r. firm (successful, of course). Especially as my hubby and I do the paycheck to paycheck gig.
But, I've also decided that once the reunion is over (and my credit card is paid off for whatever I purchase to wear) I'm going to save up for a life or career coach. Heck--maybe I'll meet one at the reunion! Have you ever considered this? It may be pricey, but the payoff may be priceless. I've nothing to lose at this point, so onward and upward!
I hope you decide to go!
MommyOfaLittleBoy
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That just like, quadruples the reason why you SHOULD do it to her...and by do it to her, I don't mean just the vomiting, wink wink.