Trouble at college, help me?

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So I'm 21 now and This is my first year at a major university and my roommate (who was a very good friend) hates me and I really haven't gotten to know anyone here and I'm really disappointed with myself. I live in a much bigger city than I'm used to and it's been rough for me.I have friends here but no good ones, I'm really shy but I tend to make people laugh when I talk. I'm in very good shape, and I consider myself to be very selfless and more concerned with others well being than my own.This is one of the top party schools in the nation yet I've never been to one that I was invited to!!!! Everyone here just seems to be so concerned with themselves!any advice on making better friends?any advice on meeting girls here?THANKS!!ha ha ha ha, you all talk about drinking like it's a bad thing lol.trust me, I've spent more than my share of time staring down the neck of a beer bottle.
 
well everyone is like that in colldont try to impress anyone just mind your own business and you'll be happy
 
Worry bout yoself and money, the females will come....in more ways than 1, ya dig.
 
you just need to get over being shy and youll do fine!im not advocating this, but drinking helps hahayeah frat, clubs, intramural sports, etc. because at my school a lot of clubs and sports have their own houses in which they host parties.
 
Look actually being in a fraternity might help refine your social skills. You just have to believe in yourself and your abilities, your best friends is probly not your best friend if he left you high and dry like that, you can mingle and be more open, it doesn't take a day, its going to take some time, but just believe in yourself participate in more clubs, don't care about what other people are going to think of you, just do it, open up and maybe you can just find a girl you know you can share some time with. but be more open, it sounds like your going to be fine, LOOK INTO MORE CLUBS OR any fraternities like that alright buddy. best of luck. remember you have the power, success!!! don't let people pre-conceived notions of you bring you down!!!! open up and be yourself, refine yourself and be great, that all i can tell you.
 
Get involved in extra curriculars!!!(edit)PS, the biggest lesson I learned in school was: Say hi and introduce yourself to the kids sitting near you on THE FIRST DAY of class. If you do that, they quickly become your friends. If not, you will probably never talk to them the whole semester.
 
make small talk with your classmates.i've meet tons of people that way.some are remain acquaintances, some became really good friendsalso go to the parties with these people that you meet, or with the not so good friends, they can introduce you to more people, or you can meet new people at the parties, or you can become better friends with the not so good ones :Palso, you can join a club...
 
College is all about getting out there, trying new things and venturing outside your comfort bubble. For me, my dorm is very active, so i met all my real good friends just by doing dorm stuff. I would recommend getting involved in whatever you are interested in, there is really something for just about everyone. I hate to recomend this, but one tof the biggest factors of my social growth was drinking. I'm not saying getting wasted every week day, but every other weekend or so going to a party can be alot of fun (drinking is a bonding experience!) If it's a major university there are plenty of people who are going to be like you and that you will develop great friendships with (odds are in your favor) but if u dont go and see whats out there, you will never disocver just what all "major" universities have to offer. Good luck!
 
The only thing I can say is to be yourself. I know that sounds vague, but I've been there. I had a very hard time meeting people in college for a few years because I was shy didn't know how to interact with people. Once I became comfortable with myself I became comfortable with other people.Talk to people in your classes... even if you are just making fun of your professor. It helps break the ice and people will know you have a sense of humor that compensates for your shyness.
 
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