Torn between two friends who are going through a possible breakup because of same

[BoyGeorgeOwnS]

sex cheating...? My friends Keith and Sandra have been dating for about a year, maybe more. They met through me - Sandra was my friend at work and they hit it off at my birthday party. So when all the following happened, it really puts me on the spot to take sides and such. A few minutes ago, Keith called me upset. Almost crying. He said that he had caught Sandra with someone else, another girl from our school, making out in her room, when he came unannounced. Sandras mom said she was in her room with a friend, and to make it worse he just walked in without knocking and he saw them going at it in their pajamas....so umm he blew his top and apparently left as she was crying to let her explain whats up. Than he called me and started asking if I knew about Sandra and this girl, or anything at all. I said no and he believes me but now he doesnt know what to do, and I sure as heck dont know what to tell him. When I meet him later at the gym I want to have something usefull to say, and when I go to work I gotta face Sandra who will no doubt want me to talk to him for her, tell her stuff about what he said to me, whatever. And shes real pushy too. So I'm stuck playing two sides here.

Any suggestions or advice on what I should tell Keith and what I should tell Sandra? I go to work in 2 hours so I hope you guys can give me some help fast..
Keith's family raised him in a anti-gay environment. He is against gays/lesbians, and hes against other controversies like abortion. Hes taking this extremely bad. And I dont want them to think I'm turning my back on them. I've known them both a while, and they both have helped me in the past with situations.

 

[Chris]

ive been in a few situations where my friends havent been getting along and usually i tried to stay in a neutral position by sort of staying out of it. i just tried to comfort both of them and i avoided saying anything negative about anyone or being like "so and so told me this about you."

even though you feel obligated to help this situation the best thing to do might be to wait on the sidelines and just be there for both of them while they work it out. this doesnt directly concern you and if you involve yourself, you might end up losing a friend.

and in the end, if there is someone that has to be blamed, its your friend sandra. regardless of whether keith was raised in a more conservative way, sandra was the one cheating on her significant other. they wouldnt be in this predicament if she wasnt making out with a girl behind her boyfriends back.

unless keith can look past the cheating and her being with a girl,
its pretty hard to think of them staying together (unless keith is extremely forgiving). once someones cheated, its very difficult to regain that trust.

hope things work out

 

[super girl]

Wow. My son's ex girlfriend left him for another girl. She is a lesbian now. Straight up. But I don't know if Keith should totally give up on his girl. Gee most guys get into that sort of thing. My boyfriend won't shut up about it. He wants to see me with a girl. I don't think so. Well, as far as Keith, tell him that you are sorry that he walked in on that. Tell him that you feel very bad. But also tell him that you can't fix things. That he has to talk to Sandra himself. All you did was invite them to the same party. Tell him that he is the only person who can talk to Sandra about Sandra. When you talk to Sandra, I wouldn't be rude or anything. But tell her that she is the one who messed up and that she is the one who has to talk to Keith. You can tell her how you feel about the situation but that really isn't necessary. This is a time when your opinion really doesn't matter. If they want to work it out they have to talk about it together. You are not the one who cheated and you weren't cheated on. You are friends with both of them so tell them they have to work this out without you.

I know it's hard to be in the middle of someones relationship problems. I know you probably feel responsible. You really have no control over anyone else. If you weren't directly involved then you cannot directly fix anything. They have to do it.

I hope it works out for all of you. It's hard to see friends like this but its also hard to be put in the middle and made to feel responsible.