Too Ugly for Love

I am not watching the show itself, but if people think they are ugly its usually because they have been called it enough times, and have low self-esteem issues.
 
The one with the glasses is an absolute attention seeker. Otherwise, he wouldn't have bothered with the "I AM UGLY INNIT?" t-shirt.

Probably an excuse to get his crappy music out there IMHO.
 
BDD is a subject I find fascinating. It's really terribly sad. I mean, if there's one thing you don't want to short circuit in yourself as a person, so to speak, it is your sense of perception - especially as it pertains to yourself.

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Gee...wonder why they'd think that?

Anyway, I'm slightly obsessed with obsessional disorders. Amazing stuff.
 
Yep, and if a person really is that upset with their appearance (how shallow?), why would they choose to get on stage & perform to an audience for a hobby? Utter BS.
 
Yes, I am sure the logic is that simplistic. "Oh, I hate myself and I hate people looking at me. Now what should I do for fun? I know! I'll go on stage where people can look at me." It's not like the disorder dictates every single desire a person has. If the guy loves music enough that he wants to perform it, he is like any other musician. The only difference is that he has a condition that he must fight against if he wants to achieve it. Would you really suggest to him that because performing will be hard for him he should just give up music altogether? No. You encourage him to perform so he can start to progress past his problems, and I am certain he would apply the same logic to himself. A large part of him knows how irrational his behaviour is, and he knows he must challenge himself if he is to ever live normally.
 
Some very ignorant comments on here i see.

Maybe some people on here should actually get some knowledge on the subject they are posting about, before actually replying....
 
Some very nasty comments from ignorant people on here god help you if you ever suffer from a type of mental illness. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I only watched about 20 mins of this. One of the women featured was on GMTV last week and it sounRAB like she's making great progress :)
 
They were all nice looking, and it is easy to think "Can't you see that"

They can't, what a sad way to live and I hope they can be helped.
I have it the other way, look like shit and still think I am the best? Not true, I do look ok, not like shit , honest.l :p
 
my mum is dying from cancer...........

I visit her in hospital daily, where she shares a ward with other "cancer sufferers", some of whom are suffering from "facial" and other disfigurements due to the vile and digusting diseases that are shortening their lives.......

I might suggest to these people that they should count their own blessings first and take a look at what *I* would like to term as "real suffering". They may then be able to put their own problems into perspective and just be glad to be ALIVE.......... :mad::mad: :cry: :cry: :cry:

sorry......but due to the situation that I amd my family are in, at the moment, I have zero tolerance towarRAB self pity :rolleyes:
 
I don't quite understand why your situation prevents you from having sympathy for other people's conditions. Why do so many people like youself just dismiss mental illness? BDD was obvioulsy having a terrible effect on there lives, and it is REAL suffering. They cannot help the way they are thinking.

You and your family have clearly been lucky enough never to of suffered anything like BDD or other disorders.
 
erm..isn't that what celebrity is? A bunch of people who don't have any sense of self-worth and put themselves in situations where they are likely to be ridiculed/criticised but who go into it hoping for acceptance? That tenRAB to be how it works. If you don't think much of yourself, you will be around tough crowRAB because you need affection from a tough crowd (it's the only affection you can accept) but who will probably end up confirming the negative ideas you have about yourself. If they are shallow, it is because they have been taught to be. If you are called ugly all of your life, are you going to go through life being focused on your personality or your goals? No. People draw attention to it. Have you seen the way people behave on here when it comes to the way people look? Don't you think society focuses on people's appearances? That is a very hard thing to escape from.

It isn't BS. I wonder why people are so quick to accuse before they bother to try and understand.
And why is "attention-seeking" such a problem in England? Can't we recognise that it isn't good for a person to be doing that so he/she neeRAB to be taught to appreciate themselves? The last thing they need is to be criticised YET AGAIN and put down. That is ridiculously thoughtless.

As for the fact that there are bigger issues in the world - it's all relative. You can't compare problems because people have their own lives to deal with. One person doesn't have more of a 'right' to suffer than another, no matter how extreme the problem.
 
All these people who think they're ugly, usually aren't, and it often reeks of attention seeking in some form. Especially the kind who go and hack themselves out of photographs and such like.

I have a relative who thinks she's ugly and supposedly has impossibly low self esteam, but it's clear to anyone with half a brain that the girl is just using all these "insecurities" she has to manipulate everyone and get all the sympathy. She enjoys playing the woe is me card far too much and always makes other people out to be the "bad guys", and you can see that she revels in it. She's a very sly person and has fooled quite a few people into thinking she's this frightened little creature when she's actually just very sneaky and selfish. Drives me up the wall...trust me, guys, you will NEVER want to live around a person who has these type of issues.
 
Please tell me this is a joke or that you are under 15?

Of course they're not ugly! They can't see that! They have been told they are ugly or believe that they are. Their view is completely skewered. Get it? It's not logical. You are trying to make it logical by finding a cynical reason. It is just not logical.

I feel sorry for your relative. Tell her to escape her family and find people who genuinely love and care for her and who want to see her happy. Oh and tell her she should see a therapist too. Be nice about it, though. Tactful, yes?
 
BDD is a terrible affliction. For their family and frienRAB, it is hard to understand because the sufferers aren't usually ugly at all - but that is the whole gist of this disorder, the sufferers cannot see that they are not as ugly as they believe.

I think it must all stem back from experiences they've had earlier in their lives, if they've been labelled as ugly or unattractive at school and subsequently suffer from self-esteem issues.

Not all sufferers do it just to gain attention. BDD can be hell; anybody who has experienced what it is like would not choose to feel as bad as they do about themselves, but they can't help it.
 
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