To what extent is the groom's mother generally involved in wedding planning?

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I guess it would really depend on how much the bride and groom want her to be involved in. How much she is contributing to the wedding and how much she wants to be involved herself. Every situation is different. IF she is crowding your space you need to tell her nicely. If she is paying for everything, you still need to tell her very nicely to back off a little. You should be able to plan your own wedding with some help from family and friends.
 
The groom's parents pay for the liquor at the reception but generally have limited involvement in the wedding plans. Today many groom's parents are contributing or even paying for the wedding/receptions. If so they have a right to have imput in the plans equal to the cash they are putting into it.

The rehersal dinner is the groom's mother's time to shine so to speak. This dinner can be anything from potluck on the dinning room table to an affair near the size and scope of the reception itself.
 
It varies a lot depending on the bride's relationship with the groom's mother, the groom's mother's interest in doing wedding planning with the bride, whether the groom's family is contributing the traditional parts like the rehearsal dinner and transportation, and whether the groom's family has a substantial guest list such that they ought to be doing something for the wedding.

Some groom's mothers have gone along with the bride and her mother to dress fittings, etc.

My case was weird because my adoptive mom who raised me had died, my bio mom decided to have plastic surgery the week of my wedding, my dad said he'd pay for whatever but did not want to do any wedding errands, and my other female relatives lived far away.

My husband's mother invited my father and me to dinner at her house where she served us incredibly dry roast beef and just didn't clean and the whole thing was not very special at all. But she's a nice lady and asked me politely what she should wear to the wedding, and did proceed to buy a very nice dress and hat. :-)

It all depends on your relationship with your husband's mother.
 
The grooms parent would pay for extra things that they want ... for example an open bar .
 
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