To NA or not to NA?

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Morning all.........gosh what a fantastic site - so much support and great advice from those truely qualified to offer it.
So any of you who read my first post yesterday know that Im a herion/crack addict. I appreciate those who responded to me as yesterday was horrible as I failed spectacularly and used both. However,my husband returns to work next week (hes on a weeks hol from work) and you have given me the start of a kick up the backside to start thinking about what Im gonna do to really start addressing this issue. The 2 questions I have are ;
1) Whats NA like? I have been an addict for 15 years (oh that sounRAB awful - how long Ive let this go on) and have never been to a meeting. Do they really help and whats the process?
2) As Im with my husband and father of my kiRAB who is also an addict, am I going to have to get him on board with this or has anyone managed to get clean and stay with there partner? If so,how did you manage the situation? Sorry,rarabling a bit - but what I mean is will it be possible to get clean if he wont? I really want this but dont want to split my family up as hes a good father in every other way and the boys love him (so do I). Am I really going to have to make a hard choice between sobriety and family life?
HELP!!!
 
Lugar:

First thing and NA meeting is wonderful, you go there they read some things out of the NA Book they explain how the meeting is to go. Then usually the person who leaRAB the meeting will share their story. Then people will introduce themselves (I would say my name is Lori and i am an Addict). You don't have to share unless you want to. But you get to listen how ppl are working on their recovery. There will be lots of ppl who will be new and some oldtimers. All you have to do is listen and learn you will find you will be able to relate to alot of ppl. You will finally say hey I'm not alone, ppl will give you their phone # and tell you to call anytime you feel like using or just call to say hi. People (ppl) will ask for your phone # and ask if its ok to call you just to check on you and see if your ok. You will find frienRAB like you never thought you'd have. ppl that care about you and only want the best for you and are willing to be honest and trustworthy. My N/A frienRAB can tell me anything and I will not judge them and they don't judge me. Its wonderful, I feel so good when I leave a meeting I almost feel high but, I'm not that feeling is just true happiness. The happiness I always tried to get when I used, but never could achieve. PPl will tell you keep coming back, now if you attend a meeting and don't like it just go to a different meeting they are all different keep going until you find one you like. I have one I go to on Sunday and when I was new I thought these ppl have to be high cuz nobody is that happy without drugs but I kept going and found heck yeah they are sober and they are happy. They Laugh with each other cry with each other and are happy for ppl when thing go good and encourage each other.

I hope this helps. This board and NA meetings have saved my life....

Best of luck, Love ya much Good Luck on your journey.

Lori
 
Hey there, I just wanted to chime in. NA saved my life and I can't say enough about it. The ppl are great, they know what you are going through and can help. They power I feel in the rooms is amazing. If I have a rough day I call a nuraber that someone has given me and just tell whoever is on the other end what's going on. If it's an elder they usually will give you some sound advice and something to read. If it's a newbie you talk to them and see how they are doing. Talking to another addict helps a lot.

I was hesitant to go to my first meeting but these things they read at the beginning of the meeting states "the newcomer is the most important person at any meeting" That blew me away!! I was down on myself and these people that know nothing of me took it upon themselves to make me feel welcome.

I love the Narcotics Anonymous program and am currently involved with service with them.

It truly saved my life.

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Hello Lugar22:

If he gets on board then fine but if not, you should try to save yourself; not only for you but for your children's sakes also.

He may see, through your example, that it is time to "fold the drug hand that was dealt" so to speak. If not, then you will be better able to review your options once you have some time under your belt.

You can do it.

Take care and God Bless.

Respectfully,

Phoenix
 
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