To love, or not to love.

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audicamaro

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Well, I am finally over Teresa (a girl previously mentioned in a earlier thread), and am so happy, because liking someone who doesn't like you back is frusterating. I told her how I felt, and now she ignores me, but O' well, her loss.:happysad:
Now, I have fallen for another girl, I attribute this to me being a teenager, and having hormones surging through my system. I absoluty adore this girl, we have known each other for seven years, and in the past few year's we have became good friends, in the last year or so, we have been the best of friend's, I tell her everything, and she does likewise. I feel totaly comfortable around her, and likewise, or so she tells me.

Well, I believe that relationships thrive with good communication. I mean what better match could you get? The one thing that bug's me is that if I do pop the question, and I ask her to be in a relationship with me, what happend's if she says no? I'm afraid it will kill our friendship, and I will lose a wonderful friend. But If she does say yes, this could be something, I'm not saying marrage or anything, but perhaps a good experence. I've never had a Girlfriend before, and I want someone I feel comfortable with, which is what I feel around this girl.

So the question is, or the main question at least, Should I ask her, or should I not?
 
That's a tough situation that I actually had to deal with recently. I had a slight crush on one person and ended up asking if she would be willing to start a relationship with me at this point in time, well aware that she might not be comfortable with her sexuality yet, and indeed she said no for that very reason, but I did ask and our friendship hasn't sufffered. Also, when I actually came out to the girl that I've liked for the last year, two years... She was perfectly fine with it, even when I told her that I'd liked her.
Anywho.
I say take the chance. I'd test it out a little bit, like sending little messages at a time, kind of hinting at it first to see how she'd react, but if she reacts nicely, then yeah, go for it.
 
Having a thing for a close friend is always tricky, especially if you've been pining for them for awhile. If what you say is true and the two of you are that close then a relationship would be great; I know from experience that good friends can make better lovers...it just takes time. Frankly, I think you should go for it, just because if you two are as close as you say, then nothing should break up the friendship. And hey, even if she shoots you down the first time you ask, who knows what may happen down the line. It might just take more wearing down...I know it did for me...;)
 
Thank's for the advice, I am partial to the hinting idea, I talk to her all the time, so hinting shoulden't be a problem, she does pick up on this sort of thing pretty well, so I have to go about it carefully. I also remember your thread, and I am sorry that I didn't add anything worthwhile, but i'm glad thing's didn't end in chaos.



This reassures me, and now to see how good your relationship is with tiger, it gives be a little more courage.(sorry if that sentence didn't make sense, english syntax and I, don't get along very well):happysad:
 
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