The father of my child recently went to jail! my child is only five years old and her dad will probably be there for 5 or so years! Controlled substance felony charge) The problem I am having is he told her he would come visit soon so she keeps asking about him. He has been in and out of her life since she was born. He has no legal rights. but I decided along time ago that I would let her make her mind up about her father by her self. I never talk bad about him in her presence and in doing so have not mentioned the numerous times he has been in jail on different charges. On the other hand I have only let him visit her.( he has always been in my sights and never leaves with her, just so you! ) The problem I am having is weather since he is going to be out of her life for so long should I let her have some closure. Let her see the life he has chosen and give her a hint of who he is. O let him just disapper and make exxcuses for him like I have in the past? She will ask about him bc he is the fun guy who comes around on the easy times.
I don't want to encourage her to think her father is something he is not and I also don't want to bad mouth him under any circumstance. I want her to see it how it is and for who he is. On her own....
I don't want to encourage her to think her father is something he is not and I also don't want to bad mouth him under any circumstance. I want her to see it how it is and for who he is. On her own....