This is starting to get on my nerves

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volleyballchick

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I'm 21 with a pretty successful job for my age. I live in a decent apartment, I have decent furniture and wear decent clothes. I have everything I need, and I live comfortably. In my spare time I read books and listen to music. Occasionally I'll watch a movie or go to the coffee shop.

I don't really want to deal with people right now. I don't like the drama that comes with people, and I never have, and my patience to deal with it had diminished to zero. I only have a few friends, but these are people I could trust with my life. Anyone starts drama or anything re-fucking-tarded I drop them like they had AIDS and were bleeding from every orifice. I've been doing this for years, and it works pretty well. There are only a handful of people I'll give advice to, because I know from experience the right path is not what people want to hear and they won't listen anyway.

I also don't want a relationship right now. I just came out of a series of relationships that have lasted for the majority of 5 years. That goes back halfway into high school. I'm enjoying coming home every day and just sitting in the recliner and relaxing, and not having anything to feed but myself and nobody bitching at me for not picking up my clothes. I don't have to worry about coming across wrong or being misinterpreted.

I can work out in my boxers and watch House naked. I can wake up and get up on the right side of the bed if I choose.

Nobody comes knocking on my door, ever. I don't have to spend my time entertaining people or trying to make them happy.

It really is as close to a stress-free life as I've ever had, and surprisingly I've been in better moods than I've had in years.

So why is it, then, that everyone is wanting me to get hooked up? Why does my stepmother bring up how sad it is that I'm not getting hooked up, and why do my friends say things like 'I know so-and-so is single, you two should hook up'? I've explained my case on the matter.

I'm getting tired of saying 'Look, I really don't feel like trying right now. If someone happens to come along then great, but I really don't want to deal with it right now.'

All of the women around here want to drink or take drugs, neither of which I do. So looking for someone is pointless anyway in a drinking town such as this one. Everyone parties; I sit at home. I can't be the only person that sees the problem with this.

Do people really not get it? If I wanted pointers, I would ask. If I wanted random opinions on such matters, I would not be openly saying 'I don't want more friends or a relationship right now'. I just don't. I like enjoying my own company; if anyone wants to talk to me they know how to find me.

That should be a deal breaker, a cut-and-dry display of my views and opinions on the matter. Why keep bringing it up?


Is there something I'm missing here? Seriously? Am I not making my feelings clear enough? Do I need to engrave them on a Louisville Slugger and plant them onto people's faces? FUCK!
 
My little sister is 21 and has huge tits. :D

Because, all your family and friends can think about when they think about you is you being lonely, isolated, and sad. People don't think you aren't sad if you don't have someone else with you.
 
Because young males at your age usually hit their peek in activity. This is the time most young adults start "living" and experimenting.

Your friends and family are just concerned and they want you to be happy. Otherwise, they wouldn't be mentioning people for you to see or to go out with people in general.

They might also think you're lonely, whether you truly are or not. Even if you tell them otherwise, they'll rationalize it as denial or something else.

Have patience, which is hard for we of our age in our generation, and explain fully to your friends and family that you want some time to yourself - that you're not interested in the dating or "partying" scenes, which is perfectly normal and healthy.

It's not that they're trying to pester you, they're trying to give you assistance they think you might need whether you know it or not.
 
Is she in Alaska, perchance?

People get into relationships so they can focus on other people instead of handling the problems they see within themselves.

Since I am indelibly perfect, I have no such gaping void to fill and have no need to rush out and find companionship. Therefore, I can wait. :D
 
I know where you're coming from and yes, it does get annoying to the point that you want to bust their teeth in so they'll STFU!

In their defense, I will offer only this: What that tells you (as annoying as it is), is two things.

1. They care about you.

2. They think highly enough of you to want to set you up with people they know.

Not that this advice will make them any less annoying (or make you feel any better about it) but I just thought I'd throw that out there.
 
I Don't think they just want him to have sex with the girl. They are afraid that he's alone and depressed for not having had a girlfriend in a long time. Parents do that, worry.

Kich, you shouldnt be offended. Just explain them the situation you're in. She's just afraid that you're sad. Like...get a cat or dog or something maybe she'll calm down. Or she's one of those parents that are "OMG I WANT MY SON TO HAVE A BABY!"
 
;960478']You're hitting "the age". This is the point where you realize that all the "cool" and "fun" and "party" stuff is not all it's hyped up to be. You've learned that good times, by the normal idiot's standard- are a waste of time.

What won't hurt you is this- just meet someone (if you even want to humor the idea). Don't go on a date, just do something you would normally do and invite one of these people along. It's your life, you're in control... don't start taking detours for anyone.

If you don't want to meet anyone, I suggest- poor hygene, breathe with your mouth open, scratch your crotch and wince in pain, and refer to all women you are introduced to as "gash".
 
^ thus effectively killing any chance of getting a piece of the local pelt forever.

You are going to want sex again someday Im assuming.
 
:yeahthat: Consider this: I am fairly similar to you, in that I don't like to deal with people, limit my friends to a handful that seem true, and spend a lot of my time alone doing my own thing. the main difference is that I do go out drinking frequently, but even that I do mostly alone. None of my family and friends care enough to try and help me out of the rut that I'm sure they believe I am in. Nobody has ever tried to set me up with anyone. Not ever. Not that I want them to, but it sort of makes you feel like nobody gives a fuck about you, which is one of the main reasons I avoid people in the first place.

So before you get all pissed off at your family and friends for trying to help you out of a situation you don't need to be helped out of, try to keep in mind that it means somebody cares about you.
 
Good points, Steelasp and DG.

Stardust: I had a cat, but she kept pissing on all of my shit so I gave her to God.


My stepsister invited me to her church, saying 'there are lots of cute college girls there!'. She was very surprised when I told her I wasn't really looking right now. She wanted to take my temperature.

I wasn't that big of a whore in high school!

Well, she was a hairdresser, so she heard all kinds of stories. :tongue: Most of which were true.
 
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