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dperez308

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So, it's been forever since I have made a thread on wtf. I normally tend to just skim over the topics and post if I am moved to. So I need some advice, and I'm just waiting to get slammed but here goes anyways.

So I just got out of a four year relationship. She joined the Navy, I stayed home. She thought I cheated on her, I didn't. We broke up. Very abridged version of that. So this leads to my "problem".

As much as I hate to admit it, my ex and I breaking up was probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. I was screwing around in a community college living with the parents and just doing what I had to so that I could get by and stay on insurance. So when my ex and I broke up, it lit a fire under my ass so to speak. When I was with her, I would put my dreams on hold to make her happy, which in retrospect was a bad idea. Anyways, so I decided to follow one of my dreams to become a pilot. Well, I don't want to just take flying lessons because: 1. They are expensive as hell and 2. I felt like I needed to get out and figure out who I was. So I started looking around at colleges that offered pilot programs. I wanted to be away from home so that I could be on my own, but not so far that I wouldn't be able to come home for a weekend if I needed to (keep in mind, I'm 20 and lived at home up until last Friday). So I chose MTSU, it's about 2.5 hours away from home. So out of reach of the rents, but no so far that I can't go home without dropping a ton of money on gas/plane ticket. Well, I applied at the absolute last minute. I literally found out I was accepted three weeks ago (classes started Monday). I moved up here last Friday, the apartment is still a wreck, I'm trying to figure out where to go for classes, all that fun stuff. So here is my real problem, and it's not a single problem, but a complex problem with several different factors:

1. I screwed myself over by fucking around at the school I was at before. My GPA is a 2.476, to get into the flight labs I have to have a minimum of a 2.5, however 2.5's do not generally fly. So I'm shooting for a 3.0, which means this semester I have to have around a 3.524 to bring it up (I think, not too good at figuring how GPA's work). So my ass is gonna be hitting the books.

2. I know I that I cannot just sit at home and study whenever I'm not in class. I will go insane if I do that. How do I find a happy medium between bookworm and going out?

3. I have no friends here. I have been around the same circle of friends for the past nine years of my life. I don't really know how to go about making new ones.

So there it goes, any advice on finding that happy medium between being a bookworm and going out, also how do I go about making new friends?
 
K, good for you for finally figuring it out and deciding what you want to do.

How do you find a balance? Well, that's hard as hell. Especially when you're first away from home. You've got all sorts of new freedom and now you have to figure out how to reign YOURSELF in. YOU know what you need to do. You need to pull off some damn near amazing grades to get the GPA up. Depending on how many credits you already have, you'll probably not make a 3.0 over all this semester. Even if you pull off a 4.0, your overall probably won't move half a point.

So you're gonna have to bust your ass. Study a LOT and play when you have time. Study has to be the priority.

Making friends is easy. Lots of people are up there and don't know anybody so LOTS of them are going to be looking for some friends. Talk to people in your classes, odds are they might have similar interests. Get to know a few people, they'll introduce you to more and pretty quick you've got new friends. How'd you make new friends when you were in school? You probably got to know the kid sitting next to you in math class right? Do it again.

First time away, not knowing anyone... it can be daunting. But figure, LOTS of people do it all the time which means you can do it now.
 
Well... you need to prioritize. If you really want to be a pilot and have great grades, your motivation is there, and you will need to have a lot of motivation and hard work if you want to succed.

Well try to organize yourself, plan study time but also fun time; it's important to vent. It's up to you how to do that...

You can study in the library if you like the calm, I used to study with music because it helps me but that's up to you, when it's nice outside you can always go to a park or on campus under a tree to enjoy the air and study too.

Try to make new friends and if possible that have the same objectives, because if your buddies go partying all night long it will be harder to keep in mind studying.

As for making friends... well discover it XD You can always try to talk to the one person that seems as lost as you at parties or on clases. I don't know what else... don't be afraid I guess, if you want it you can do it :)
 
Record all your lectures.

Replay them repeatedly while driving, cleaning, cooking.

There, thats not really studying, its just listening.

Record yourself reading what you are supposed to be studying outloud and do the same things. This works well for memorizing equations and terminology.
 
First off, congratulations on finding out who you want to be.

I thought I'd never see you again on here, to be honest. I've seen you on AIM though...

Welcome back. I remember you back from the waaaay early days of WTF...
 
talk to some people in your class you think you might have things in common with, then set up study groups/movie knights, this will get your homework out of the way and give you some socialization, then limit going out to like once a week. It's what I did, my gpa is a 3.6 =) studying with other people really does help.
 
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