This is going to sound weird at first, but have you ever wished someone would die, but..

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Ashley

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...for thier own good? I know that's a bad way to put it, but I don't know of any other words to describe it, so let me explain. My grandfather passed away last year. But for the last 3 or so years leading up to his death his movement and pain got so bad that he could barely walk from room to room in his own house. He lived alone because my grandmother had already passed away. He refused to live with a family member or go into a nursing home because he had lived there for the last 45 years and that's where he wanted to be, and refused to let anyone stay there to help him. But just to see him like that was so sad, it's like he was waking up every day just to be in hell. He even said it was so bad he wanted to kill him, but he didn't because he would go to hell. Anyway, I found myself (I'm going to say this for lack of better words) almost wishing that he would die, just so he wouldn't have to live such a horrible life every day. Now that he's gone I look bad at that and feel like a piece of shit for even having those thoughts, so I'm just asking, in a situation like that, is that even remotely normal?
 
Yes, I have. It was mostly for MY own good, though.
I do not wish that anymore, though. You shouldn't either, sweetie. *hugs*
 
Yes if your wish is because he was in pain & was no longer able to enjoy family & friends. But I must say that my grandmother was in great pain the last 5 years of her life and she said that it would be nice to go to sleep and not wake up. As far as I know no one in the family ever wished that she was dead. We did what we could for her and we visited her frequently. My mother cleaned her small apartment and took her to all of her appointments.

Even though she was in pain (her spine was crumbling from osteoporosis & jutted out in two places) she still was able to get around until almost the end. She attended all family get-togethers and enjoyed visits from family and friends. So that might be why we didn't wish that death would come to her; because in spite of her pain she was still involved in living. Once she had to go into a nursing home we knew that she was nearing the end and so it was unnecessary to wish her death.
 
Im 14 and I can see were you are coming from i have a similar situation my grandma passed away in feb. And when she was struggling with cancer i had the same thoughts as you and now i wish she was with me but you always have to remember they are in peace now. =]
 
I completely understand that. My grandpa had Lupus and the two years previous to his death his muscles started degenerating. It started out by him not being able to walk, and, in the end, he couldn't move at all. He couldn't eat, couldn't talk, couldn't even breathe on his own. He spent 60 days sedated on the hospital, just waiting to die. Yes, I knew he was in pain, he was so ready to go. So, yes, I wished he would die so he wouldn't have to suffer anymore.
 
Gosh, I can feel your pain. My Mother died of cancer, and at times i didn't want to see her like that. I didn't want her to die, yet I didn't want her to be in pain. I too felt guilty. A lady from my church, went to visit and pray for my mom. In her prayer she told the Lord that if He no longer needed her for him to take her ( I think that she could see the pain that my mother was in). My mom lived a few more months.
No! don't feel sad, or bad for your thoughts. You just didn't want to see grandpa like that. You just wanted the best for him. You just want him to be pain less. Your a good granddaughter, for loving , and caring for him the way you did, going to visit and all that you could do for him.

It's O.kay..

Blessings to you !!!
 
My beloved uncle's breathing tube was removed by the doctor, as he was brain dead that time, but still breathing, but NO, we never wished that, his immedialy family just came up with the concensus...
 
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