The sister of the groom has not been invited to be in the bridal party.?

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The groom only has one sibling which is his 25 year old sister. The bride only wants two of her friends and a junior bridesmaid. The groom's sister is very hurt just to be an invited guest. What is the ediquette for this.
 
It's the bride's decision. My only brother is not a part of my bridal party. My fiance and brother do not get along. My brother and I do not have a relationship hardly at all. It would be awkward to say the least to have my brother up there with us. In my situation, my brother and I don't talk, but my mother is the one making a big deal about it.

Maybe the groom's sister can volunteer to do a reading at the ceremony, or be the guest book attendent, or do some other thing that would help her become part of th wedding if she really wants to be involved.
 
well my fiance has an older brother and a older sister and neither of them are in our wedding. its not the fact that we do not love them. it is what ever the bride and groom both want. she doesnt have to be apart of the wedding party. she could read a poem or something during the ceremony or she can be the greeter.
 
It is normally a given that immediate family is included in the wedding party (just to be nice), but maybe the bride doesn't feel that her and the groom's sister have "clicked" or maybe they just don't get along all that great.
 
There is no etiquette other than for the bride to ask whoever she feels comfortable asking to be in her bridal party. She is not required to ask the groom's sister to be involved, although if it were me, I would ask just to avoid the conflict this may lead to. However, it is still her choice. Perhaps they just wanted a small bridal party (three attendants each) ... or were trying to keep it even (if the groom only had three friends or siblings to ask).
 
It really stinks. Your son should tell his bride to be how hurt he is that his sister is not a bridesmaid. The he should make her a groomswoman. She should wear a different dress then the bridesmaids so she stands out as important to the groom, not the bride.
 
the bride is under no obligation to ask the groom's female relatives to be part ot the bridal party...she often asks those she's close to, which is really the point of it...not for in-law 'brownie-points'.....
 
The bride doesn't have to have any one as an attendant that she doesn't want. Just because the groom's sister wants to be in the wedding, it doesn't mean she is in the wedding.

You can't always get what you want.
 
I agree with the first answer. Also, if the bride and the to be sister in law aren't close, that's a reason why she hasn't been asked to be in the wedding party.
 
The groom can have his sister stand up for him as one of his groomsladies. She can dress like the other bridesmaids and stand on either her side or his side for the ceremony and pictures. Assuming he wants her as one. If not, they have the decision on who is in and who is out.

EDIT: If you are the SIL, unfortunately the decision is up to them, don't take it personal as anything against you. Be happy that you will not have to worry about rehearsals, remembering toasts, buying a new dress, etc, etc. You will be able to enjoy the day as a guest, no responsibilities.
 
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