If he didn't rock your socks girl then he needs some training there are a number of bedroom games you could try just play with him and he will get use to messing around and then he will want to try other things but what you really need to do is spend as much time together as you can be doing this you will both get use to each other and you wont feel shy or embarrass with each other and love making will be better and more excitable.
Well it might take a few times for you both to get used to eachother and lose all inhibitions! Maybe get some sexy lingerie, give him a massage. Depends on what he's into really.
Some men like to be dominated, some like to dominate!