Oh I don't really feel that bad for either in regards to their relationship. It just wasn't healthy at all. And they were both using one another. :nod: I do think Spike was worse though only because he was preying on her a bit. She was vulnerable and knew it and took advantage. But then again he did try to help in the beginning and it was the only way he could have her. With Buffy... she knew he loved her and still just used him but she did break it off.