I know not everyone agrees with the decision to keep weddings "adults only" but that is our decision. In fact, it's because of my fiance's sister's cute little nightmares that we decided this way. They are totally undisciplined, rowdy, and every five minutes one of them is hurting another. Our is an evening wedding (the ceremony begins at 6pm) and we move directly into cocktail hour. The bar will be open until midnight. It's just not a kid-friendly atmosphere.
We each called our own family to let them know, we're not extending the invitation to the kids - that way there would be no surprises when invitations go out in 2 weeks saying that we've reserved 2 seats in your honor. I'm quite close with everyone in my family, so it wasn't hard to do. My MOH's daughter is 16 and volunteered for childcare on-site, so no one has to miss out if they can't find (or afford) a sitter. But it seems my dear fiance didn't make his call (he only had one person in his family with children - his sister). *sigh* And apparently she's been shopping already for a dress for her daughter, thinking they'll all be coming as a family.
When I found this out on Monday, I told my fiance he needed to call her ASAP to clear this up. The longer he waits, the more awkward it will be. He assured me he'd call her Monday night... but now it's Thursday and he still hasn't. Well, stupid me, I told him if he doesn't call her today, then I will. He said, "Oh good. You're so much better at that kind of stuff than I am. She won't be mad at you."
Open mouth, insert foot. Doh!
It was easy with my family, I know them so well. But... I can't even remember all her kids' names. I just don't want her to be surprised when her terrors get routed to the sitter instead of to a seat. I think being proactive is the best approach... but we've passed that point already. What should I say when I talk to her?
My family is excited at the prospect of an all-expenses paid, adult evening, with someone pre-arranged to watch their kids at no additional cost. It hasn't offended anyone yet... and it's the one set of bad apples I'm working on next. Whether or not to include kids isn't the question here. We're confident in that part of our decision.
We each called our own family to let them know, we're not extending the invitation to the kids - that way there would be no surprises when invitations go out in 2 weeks saying that we've reserved 2 seats in your honor. I'm quite close with everyone in my family, so it wasn't hard to do. My MOH's daughter is 16 and volunteered for childcare on-site, so no one has to miss out if they can't find (or afford) a sitter. But it seems my dear fiance didn't make his call (he only had one person in his family with children - his sister). *sigh* And apparently she's been shopping already for a dress for her daughter, thinking they'll all be coming as a family.
When I found this out on Monday, I told my fiance he needed to call her ASAP to clear this up. The longer he waits, the more awkward it will be. He assured me he'd call her Monday night... but now it's Thursday and he still hasn't. Well, stupid me, I told him if he doesn't call her today, then I will. He said, "Oh good. You're so much better at that kind of stuff than I am. She won't be mad at you."
Open mouth, insert foot. Doh!
It was easy with my family, I know them so well. But... I can't even remember all her kids' names. I just don't want her to be surprised when her terrors get routed to the sitter instead of to a seat. I think being proactive is the best approach... but we've passed that point already. What should I say when I talk to her?
My family is excited at the prospect of an all-expenses paid, adult evening, with someone pre-arranged to watch their kids at no additional cost. It hasn't offended anyone yet... and it's the one set of bad apples I'm working on next. Whether or not to include kids isn't the question here. We're confident in that part of our decision.