Ok so say they're 16 (legal age) they're not not going to have sex. Accidents happen no matter how careful people are as I'm sure many people can relate to teen or not. But when a teen does it they get looks of utter disgust and a whole global debate about it. Ok yes argue that they are too young to support them and they'd possibly not be as committed as a parent as they want to go out and be a teen but when i see pregnant teens i think well hey... they didn't go out and murder their baby although it would have been the easy way out they saw what was morally right... i mean in my opinion bad parenting is better than murder no? And who says they can't be good parents, what makes them any more incompetent than any other parent.. no one is truly prepared for a baby no matter how many books you read up on. Sex is brilliant, sex is great and you can't have any because your a teen.. doesn't seem right does it well no correction.. you can have it just don't slip up or you'll have the old ladies evils to deal with, if they didn't want us to have sex they'd up the age, they'd stop writing provocative articles and they'd stop making sexy films certificate 15. It is legal and it bums me out and i'm sure many others that it's so appalling. Don't get me wrong i'm no wh*re. I'm a virgin and i want my first time to be special and i don't get these people who throw away their virginity like rubbish just so you know. But please.. challenge me.. or agree what ever i'd like to know both sides
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Teen pregnancy debate.. whats your opinion ?
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I agree with you. I was classed as as whore at school for getting pregnant at 15, even though i had been with my bf for over a year and he was my first. The annoying thing was that it was the girls that boasted about how many boys they'd slept with that were really nasty.
I wouldn't say its a good thing but those 9 months are there to help you prepare for being a mother and i think i have done very well. My daughter is 10 this year and she is one of the cleverest children in her class and is happy.
Saying this though i could not have done it without the support of my family. I finished my GCSE's worked part time (late nights so it didn't cut into the time with my daughter) then carried on to do my A levels. This was also without my bf who went as soon as he knew i was pregnant.
I moved into my own house after i finished my a levels and have paid my own way ever since. I got married at 19 and i am now expecting my 4th child.
I have also just finished my honours degree and i am happy to say that i got a second class honours degree.
The problem is that teenage mums are all stereotyped as the ones who live off benefits for the rest of their lives and who's kids run riot as they have no control over them.
Im not saying i am the perfect mother, as i don't think that exists but all my children are happy and healthy and have everything they need.
And just to say accidents do happen. I got pregnant after the condom split and using plan B after 16hrs. My second pregnancy i was on the pill, my 3rd i had the injection, and this time round i had a coil in. Anyone have any suggestions for contraception that may actually work for me then im all ears, otherwise my husbands getting the chop.
I wouldn't say its a good thing but those 9 months are there to help you prepare for being a mother and i think i have done very well. My daughter is 10 this year and she is one of the cleverest children in her class and is happy.
Saying this though i could not have done it without the support of my family. I finished my GCSE's worked part time (late nights so it didn't cut into the time with my daughter) then carried on to do my A levels. This was also without my bf who went as soon as he knew i was pregnant.
I moved into my own house after i finished my a levels and have paid my own way ever since. I got married at 19 and i am now expecting my 4th child.
I have also just finished my honours degree and i am happy to say that i got a second class honours degree.
The problem is that teenage mums are all stereotyped as the ones who live off benefits for the rest of their lives and who's kids run riot as they have no control over them.
Im not saying i am the perfect mother, as i don't think that exists but all my children are happy and healthy and have everything they need.
And just to say accidents do happen. I got pregnant after the condom split and using plan B after 16hrs. My second pregnancy i was on the pill, my 3rd i had the injection, and this time round i had a coil in. Anyone have any suggestions for contraception that may actually work for me then im all ears, otherwise my husbands getting the chop.
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lilly 3 boys and pregnant
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ok i met my other half when i was 15 and we got a house when i was 18 and had our 1st baby i am now 25 and having my 4th. we have both always worked (me from home). our children are happy and well looked after by us. when i was pregnant at 18 we had a lot of people disrespect us. i have a perfect family and i am a proud young mum. if i am wrong i don't want to be right!! as long as you can look after a child and yourself well then age is not a problem. i no good and bad parents of every age. x
imported_Amber
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'Accidents Happen' utter b@llocks, what a pathetic excuse for getting pregnant. If you're not sensible enough to make sure 'accidents' don't happen then don't open your legs in the first place.... and if you've never had sex then how do you know it's great?????? WEIRD - and teen pregnancy is a joke and the rest of society ends up paying for your stupid mistakes. Don't even get me started cos I would rip you to shreds you silly girl!!
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Peas mummy
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I find it bad that old ladies in particular give teens dirty looks when they're pregnant. I've been doing some research into my family tree to find that 100 years ago it was the norm for people as young as 16 to be getting married and having babies. This is the parents and grandparents of our grandmothers.
My views on it are that if it is an accident and the girl decides to keep the baby then good for her. She should however stand by that decision and take responsibility for her actions by fully taking care of her child. That means growing up quickly and an end to being a teen and going out doing all the regular teen things. You'll have to enjoy yourself when your child is grown up.
However I'm strongly against teen pregnancy because I know that so often these accidents are easily avoidable if they'd actually use contraception rather than being too embarrassed or too "cool".
Also so many teens are actually getting pregnant on purpose. Either because they think they love their boyfriend and it will last forever and can't wait a few more years to start a family. They want to be all grown up and have it now. Or they just love the idea of having a baby as teens hormones do make them broody (I remember it myself) or simply to get council accommodation and escape their parents.
I think if you are to have a baby and raise a well balanced, intelligent child to send off into the world you have to have some life experience of your own. You need an education, you need to have been there and done it with the partying and boyfriends, you need to be settled and be financially and emotionally ready.
I really don't agree with people having a baby and living with their parents, living on their parents money or benefits and relying on their parents help and support to raise a child. If you're ready to be a monther, you're ready to do everything that comes with it.
I do understand however how sometimes people can loose their jobs and end up in council accomodation and on benefits.
As for calling abortion "murder", I think thats a bit strong and in mnay situations, for many kids it's the best thing to do. Teen mums tend to lead a cycle of future generations of teen parents. It's more about making the right decision for you and the child rather than taking the easy way out. Believe me - abortion is not an easy way.
My views on it are that if it is an accident and the girl decides to keep the baby then good for her. She should however stand by that decision and take responsibility for her actions by fully taking care of her child. That means growing up quickly and an end to being a teen and going out doing all the regular teen things. You'll have to enjoy yourself when your child is grown up.
However I'm strongly against teen pregnancy because I know that so often these accidents are easily avoidable if they'd actually use contraception rather than being too embarrassed or too "cool".
Also so many teens are actually getting pregnant on purpose. Either because they think they love their boyfriend and it will last forever and can't wait a few more years to start a family. They want to be all grown up and have it now. Or they just love the idea of having a baby as teens hormones do make them broody (I remember it myself) or simply to get council accommodation and escape their parents.
I think if you are to have a baby and raise a well balanced, intelligent child to send off into the world you have to have some life experience of your own. You need an education, you need to have been there and done it with the partying and boyfriends, you need to be settled and be financially and emotionally ready.
I really don't agree with people having a baby and living with their parents, living on their parents money or benefits and relying on their parents help and support to raise a child. If you're ready to be a monther, you're ready to do everything that comes with it.
I do understand however how sometimes people can loose their jobs and end up in council accomodation and on benefits.
As for calling abortion "murder", I think thats a bit strong and in mnay situations, for many kids it's the best thing to do. Teen mums tend to lead a cycle of future generations of teen parents. It's more about making the right decision for you and the child rather than taking the easy way out. Believe me - abortion is not an easy way.
Miss Booger Monster
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you lost me at "OK"
Hi there,
I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17. Im now 19. I am also physically disabled and supporting myself and my daughter in our rented home. I think I am a brilliant mother as I have acheieved so much. My age has never come into it.
I think a lot of people think that young people having children is such a bad thing because, like you said, its hard for them to support themselfs. But that is only because the most employers will not take on people under 18. And even if they did, most are payed at a minimum wage therefore not being able to afford childcare so she could go to work. It is only a finacial problem because the government shoot themselfs in the foot with that one.
And in my opinion having a baby at around 17-18 is the best age biologically. Most people my age are mature enough to take care of a baby.
There is way too much stigma attatched to age.
People also assume that young people are a drain on society, that they are all on benifits. That is a very unfair assumtion. There are a LOT of people claiming all sorts of things when they don't actually need it. So what is the harm in a few young people claiming some money that they actually need?
To be honest, I think the world is full of madness.
I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17. Im now 19. I am also physically disabled and supporting myself and my daughter in our rented home. I think I am a brilliant mother as I have acheieved so much. My age has never come into it.
I think a lot of people think that young people having children is such a bad thing because, like you said, its hard for them to support themselfs. But that is only because the most employers will not take on people under 18. And even if they did, most are payed at a minimum wage therefore not being able to afford childcare so she could go to work. It is only a finacial problem because the government shoot themselfs in the foot with that one.
And in my opinion having a baby at around 17-18 is the best age biologically. Most people my age are mature enough to take care of a baby.
There is way too much stigma attatched to age.
People also assume that young people are a drain on society, that they are all on benifits. That is a very unfair assumtion. There are a LOT of people claiming all sorts of things when they don't actually need it. So what is the harm in a few young people claiming some money that they actually need?
To be honest, I think the world is full of madness.
♥Mummy 2 Anton Lee♥
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I don't think people should judge teen parents im 16 and a mum to a 7 1/2 month old baby. Some people think i'm brave taking on a child at that age and living in my own place with the baby's father.
If people feel like they can't cope they shouldn't have babies because some teen mums end up harming themselves or their babies because they get postnatal depression because they feel like they can't cope.
If people feel like they can't cope they shouldn't have babies because some teen mums end up harming themselves or their babies because they get postnatal depression because they feel like they can't cope.