My partner and I r 24, we live together and love each other very much. We made amazing love last night, something happened this morning that’s made me upset and weird. There was something on tv about swinging and I asked what he thought. He said he didn’t know. He said his 1st g-friend and him once almost did, he was’extatic’ she had initiated it but they didn’t in the end. I said would it not make u feel strange, and change ur feelings towards me if we did it. He said that he doesn’t know what hed feel like. He said if you made each other feel comfortable about it. I said would it not make u think maybe the other person is doing something better to me than you?
Of course we all have fantasies but I feel that I share my body only with him and that’s another reason (not just mentally) why were so intimate. Hes never been in a relationship as intimate as ours before. It just makes me feel physically sick to think of him doing someone else and the fact hed contemplate sharing me and himself. He said its different peoples attitudes towards sex that makes it ok for them or not. He said he didn’t know if he wud want it unless his was in the situation and then decided. I think it would make him jealous (I would would be)
Hes not one for thrying new things in the bedroom (as I am) so I cant see how this would ever work for him anyway! I said wud u be happy if I initiated it (which I wudnt be comfortable with) he said no cozthat hed think its coz I would then distance myself from him (which I thinkit would. It would affect my feelings for him).
I don’t know how to tell him im upset about this, I don’t know how to deal with how he feels
Of course we all have fantasies but I feel that I share my body only with him and that’s another reason (not just mentally) why were so intimate. Hes never been in a relationship as intimate as ours before. It just makes me feel physically sick to think of him doing someone else and the fact hed contemplate sharing me and himself. He said its different peoples attitudes towards sex that makes it ok for them or not. He said he didn’t know if he wud want it unless his was in the situation and then decided. I think it would make him jealous (I would would be)
Hes not one for thrying new things in the bedroom (as I am) so I cant see how this would ever work for him anyway! I said wud u be happy if I initiated it (which I wudnt be comfortable with) he said no cozthat hed think its coz I would then distance myself from him (which I thinkit would. It would affect my feelings for him).
I don’t know how to tell him im upset about this, I don’t know how to deal with how he feels