Please help me out. It's well written so it won't take a lot of time to read though at first glance it seems like a bunch of a million words.. I just need some clever thoughts on this.
WHAT SHALL I DO? I'll go insane over here very soon. I need closure. I never expected to be with this guy forever or even after we went back to our different home countries, but I think I deserved a better ending and I can't understand why he can't be my FRIEND?! Before attraction was revealed we used to talk loads like friends and had quite a lot in common....
There's this guy I had a thing with while studying abroad. (None of us were locals, he's British, I'm Scandinavian, it all took place in a whole other country) Thing is it all got pretty complicated in the end and upon leaving (he left a week before I did) he acted pretty cold towards me.
We had a really good feeling between us, he was the sweetest guy and I could really tell from his eyes when he smiled at me that he really liked me. He'd tell me I was beautiful, he'd compliment me on skills and new shoes and what not. He always gave me attention and seemed really interested in knowing more about me. He'd always greet me with my name, teasing me for not knowing how to pronounce certain words in correct English... Always wanted to dance with me, even when there was no one else on the dance floor and everybody in the club, our mutual friends among them, just watching us, he'd convince me he wanted to dance with me, **** happens if people stare... When we danced and fooled around he'd grab my hands and pull me against him close, close, close, looking me in the eyes, smiling, just holding me tight tight tight... is it wrong of me to think he genuinely liked me?
Then he left and we never really talked about the time we spent together and what went wrong in the end... I've sent him several msg:s on fb but he doesn't reply at all... I miss him loads, loads, loads, why can he just not have mercy on me and tell me what went wrong? Was it all just a game to him? How can I make him realise I never meant to hurt him and that I really want him in my life? Thing is I don't really know what I did wrong... there was an incident with a text message which I refused to translate for him, despite eventually promising him to do so if he'd read it out loud in my native language. He said: "you can trust me, I won't tell anyone, and if there's something painful in that message that you'd like to talk about, we can stay up talking about it" - but I just didn't translate the ******* message because it had been like 2 hours and I had made such a big deal about a message that in reality just said something about my feelings and desire for him... After this incident he stopped giving me attention, became untalkative etc... then he left back to the UK 2 days later.
It's been a long time now... soon 3 months. but I don't think he's totally forgot about me, I've sent him messages he must have seen, what makes him not respond? I told him exactly how I felt about it and asked of him, in a humble tone, to just give me any kind of response. SO Why doesn't he just tell me Im a pain in the *** or remove me from fb? I wouldn't be 20 per cent as hurt then as I am now... this is probably the most cruel way of behaving I've ever been subjected to. Ignorance's never bliss
Please help. Am I overanalysing the text message thingie's importance?
I think he probably liked me but doesn't want to get hurt by getting involved with a girl living 3 hours flight away from him... so instead he ignores me and tries to forget about me? Or was he just after the single thing I didn't give him - sex?
Please help out. And forgetting and moving on's not an option. I've got serious troubles with leaving things hanging and moving on, gotta know what went wrong or else I'll keep wondering for years, no kidding. That happened with my ex.
Thanks beforehand.
WHAT SHALL I DO? I'll go insane over here very soon. I need closure. I never expected to be with this guy forever or even after we went back to our different home countries, but I think I deserved a better ending and I can't understand why he can't be my FRIEND?! Before attraction was revealed we used to talk loads like friends and had quite a lot in common....
There's this guy I had a thing with while studying abroad. (None of us were locals, he's British, I'm Scandinavian, it all took place in a whole other country) Thing is it all got pretty complicated in the end and upon leaving (he left a week before I did) he acted pretty cold towards me.
We had a really good feeling between us, he was the sweetest guy and I could really tell from his eyes when he smiled at me that he really liked me. He'd tell me I was beautiful, he'd compliment me on skills and new shoes and what not. He always gave me attention and seemed really interested in knowing more about me. He'd always greet me with my name, teasing me for not knowing how to pronounce certain words in correct English... Always wanted to dance with me, even when there was no one else on the dance floor and everybody in the club, our mutual friends among them, just watching us, he'd convince me he wanted to dance with me, **** happens if people stare... When we danced and fooled around he'd grab my hands and pull me against him close, close, close, looking me in the eyes, smiling, just holding me tight tight tight... is it wrong of me to think he genuinely liked me?
Then he left and we never really talked about the time we spent together and what went wrong in the end... I've sent him several msg:s on fb but he doesn't reply at all... I miss him loads, loads, loads, why can he just not have mercy on me and tell me what went wrong? Was it all just a game to him? How can I make him realise I never meant to hurt him and that I really want him in my life? Thing is I don't really know what I did wrong... there was an incident with a text message which I refused to translate for him, despite eventually promising him to do so if he'd read it out loud in my native language. He said: "you can trust me, I won't tell anyone, and if there's something painful in that message that you'd like to talk about, we can stay up talking about it" - but I just didn't translate the ******* message because it had been like 2 hours and I had made such a big deal about a message that in reality just said something about my feelings and desire for him... After this incident he stopped giving me attention, became untalkative etc... then he left back to the UK 2 days later.
It's been a long time now... soon 3 months. but I don't think he's totally forgot about me, I've sent him messages he must have seen, what makes him not respond? I told him exactly how I felt about it and asked of him, in a humble tone, to just give me any kind of response. SO Why doesn't he just tell me Im a pain in the *** or remove me from fb? I wouldn't be 20 per cent as hurt then as I am now... this is probably the most cruel way of behaving I've ever been subjected to. Ignorance's never bliss
Please help. Am I overanalysing the text message thingie's importance?
I think he probably liked me but doesn't want to get hurt by getting involved with a girl living 3 hours flight away from him... so instead he ignores me and tries to forget about me? Or was he just after the single thing I didn't give him - sex?
Please help out. And forgetting and moving on's not an option. I've got serious troubles with leaving things hanging and moving on, gotta know what went wrong or else I'll keep wondering for years, no kidding. That happened with my ex.
Thanks beforehand.