I don't really know if this can be considered a "relationship" issue... but it's still something that has come to my attention lately and I'm kind of wondering if I should seek help in some way.
Anyways, I was in a long term relationship for four years on and off with the guy who was my first love. After him and I broke up, I was heartbroken and got quite upset thinking that no one would ever want to be with me again (silly thoughts of a broken-hearted young girl)... But now that I've finally moved on, I find that once I meet guys that I'm interested in I get attached to them really quickly and it frightens me. For example, if I meet a guy through friends and we go out for drinks and get along really well and end up kissing or something, I won't be able to get him off my mind for quite a long time, even if we don't talk or hang out for a while after. My friends also make fun of me because I'm not the type to hook up with random people, and if I ever do (which is very, very rare) I'll almost always develop feelings for them and they'll give me a hard time because of it. I was in a relationship for so long I could just be mistaking this for a simple crush, thinking about them non-stop and all that, but I'm still skeptical about how quickly my feelings advance.
I guess I don't even know what I'm worried about... I just know that how quickly I begin to like someone doesn't seem to be normal. I want to say that I'm not a self-conscious person as I'm quite content with my looks, but clearly there is some underlying issue that I'm insecure about... Does anyone think it's worth it for me to talk to someone and see if we can root out my problems? Or should I just wait it out and hope that these feelings go away once I've been single for a little bit longer? Any questions are appreciated... Thank you very much.
Anyways, I was in a long term relationship for four years on and off with the guy who was my first love. After him and I broke up, I was heartbroken and got quite upset thinking that no one would ever want to be with me again (silly thoughts of a broken-hearted young girl)... But now that I've finally moved on, I find that once I meet guys that I'm interested in I get attached to them really quickly and it frightens me. For example, if I meet a guy through friends and we go out for drinks and get along really well and end up kissing or something, I won't be able to get him off my mind for quite a long time, even if we don't talk or hang out for a while after. My friends also make fun of me because I'm not the type to hook up with random people, and if I ever do (which is very, very rare) I'll almost always develop feelings for them and they'll give me a hard time because of it. I was in a relationship for so long I could just be mistaking this for a simple crush, thinking about them non-stop and all that, but I'm still skeptical about how quickly my feelings advance.
I guess I don't even know what I'm worried about... I just know that how quickly I begin to like someone doesn't seem to be normal. I want to say that I'm not a self-conscious person as I'm quite content with my looks, but clearly there is some underlying issue that I'm insecure about... Does anyone think it's worth it for me to talk to someone and see if we can root out my problems? Or should I just wait it out and hope that these feelings go away once I've been single for a little bit longer? Any questions are appreciated... Thank you very much.