Strange bed partner

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Long story short.

I got very very very drunk July 3rd. July 4th theres a naked girl in my bed. Story I've been told is she was slightly drunk, and I was crawling hammered, but obviously horny. Pretty sure I cheated on my partner of two years in some way, shape, form, or fashion.

I'm at that brink of being honest after it happened vs me acting normal then dropping a bomb vs just shutting the hell up about it. The guilt is really overwhelming me at this point.

Life does suck. I need to watch my drinking from here on out.
 
Um, does your partner of two years know about your account on this site? Because that's definitely not the way she should find out.

I assume she won't be as mad at you as she would be for full on cheating considering you can't even remember what happened, but still, sucks to be you.
 
Partner fails at the internet. Smart smart girl though. I'd honestly rather be caught indirectly. I think I want to be caught at this point to alleviate myself of the options above, as pussy footed as that is.
 
Did you talk to the naked chick in the bed with you to find out what happened?

Honestly, when you're that kind of drunk it's damned hard to even get it up much less screw someone.
 
Skelter, if she hears from someone else or if she finds out from a different way than you, the reprocutions(sp?) will be a lot worse than if you are honest and tell her. If you both love each other, you can both get over it.
 
I think your best bet is to go to your partner, be honest about what you know happened and what you don't know happened. She will be pissed, might even needs some time away to think about the situation, but that will be a helluva lot better and safer for you than if she finds out from a 3rd party or on accident or 'indiscreetly.'

Its going to be the difference between a hard slap on the face and a hard kick in the nuts.
 
She's a friend of a friends who came down from Austin TX for the 4th. Supposedly nothing really happened, but I don't know if she's never done a one night stand before and is embarrassed or if nothing really happened. Doesn't explain the naked chick that much though, nor the missing fitted sheet.

I don't think I could've gotten it up honestly. Maybe I'm freaking out and should just chock this up to "one of those crazy times in college".

I guess it's the blender her heart goes into tonight. Hopefully I'm forgivable. I don't want the relationship where "he cheated on her once". That's fucking torture.
 
Yeah, that's exactly what I was wondering. Talk to the other girl first, find out what she remembers (seeing as she was tipsy she should remember something) and compare that with whatever you can recall. Then, and only then tell your partner/spouse/whatever.
 
You should be honest and tell your partner. It'll only get worse the longer you hide it. She'll either appreciate your honesty and be mad for a while but forgive you, or she'll hate you and you'll break up. But either way you won't end up guilty forever.
 
Everyone is right, it's best you talk to your girl before someone else does. Tell her what you do know. Tell her what you don't.

You're in a world of trouble but if you're honest you might make it out ok.

And if your friends are anything like mine, nothing happened, they paid the chick $50 to get naked and get into bed with you just to fuck with you.
 
Yeah, thanks for the perspective. I'm sure you know you can never think too straight once these things happen. I'm having a discussion with her on exactly what happened, and I'm going from there. I'm ok with the consequences that will occur, this isn't my first goat fuck actually. It sucks that this time (2nd) I didn't want this to happen...not one bit.

I guess I'll have to live with my action of drinking heavily ='s mistakes. Life sucks but I'll pick myself up. Theres always wtf.com to soothe the grief. :happysad:

(First time the happy sad emote applies correctly)
 
Wait, this is the second time? That's a whole nother ball of wax. Not only should you be honest, but you should beg for forgiveness, buy her soemthing nice, and worship her. And if I were her, I'd let you know that the 3rd time and you are fucking gone like last month's gouda cheese.
 
You should see if anyone else had sex with her. Perhaps she was already in the bed when your drunk ass was searching for a place to sleep. Ask your friends questions that would get them to tell you the deal without spilling the beans.

Say: "so did anyone hook up with that chick that came into town?" or something along those lines. Ask enough questions to find out without giving yourself away.

On another note... perhaps you did something with her and are intentionally forgeting it to quell your guilt. Why wasnt your partner with you at the party? I'm sure there is more to it than you just woke up in bed next to a nekkid chick. This is also a good example of why if you're in a relationship... you should stray away from drinking heavily with known party animals.
 
No, you don't, trust me. If there's one thing that will make you feel shittier than blatently cheating on someone, it's having your partner find everything out before you and learning from your partner what happened.

If you don't talk to her about it before she hears something, you will wish you had.
 
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