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anajo

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See also: Jiraffe

I was caught unaware. I even argued in my defense a bit. That is until I peaked at a website. From there I read a few books and did more research. A realization hit me that I never wanted to become.

There are parts to the story that are no one's business. The fact of the matter is I'm a stalker and I want to know what to do to change. Medicines to ask about, programs to look into, etc.

I just need more research than I can find on my own. And as it stands, my friend circle became considerably smaller.
 
Jiraffe, at least you recognize you have a problem and are attempting to get help. You may think you're helping whoever you're stalking, but they'll likely feel creeped out/scared to know that someone is following them...especially if they,ve asked you to leave them alone already.

I hope the therapy works.
 
therapy, and I think you should write down why you did it, really think about why, did you believe the person was in danger? write it down, it's always good to get it down on paper, to really see your thoughts :happysad:
I hope you feel better soon :hug2:
 
I had a stalker once. She sacrificed cats in my name and inscribed 'mystic runes of love and protection' with the entrails, trying to get me to fall in love with her.

At least you aren't sacrificing cats (I hope). If you are already going to see a shrink you are well on the path to nipping this problem.
 
I was chasing a ghost. Along time ago we fell in love, but nothing became of it. I came back years later, cleaned up and wanting to remind her of then. I got pushy, she got scared and dated me out of fear/politeness. And when this all came out I was trying to argue that she was judgmental and distant. Still denying that I was a creep. But then I began noticing things and I'm disgusted with myself.



People like that are sick. I hate rapists, molesters, animal sacrificing new age emo kids, and murderers.

But I have no right to judge I guess.
 
Psychologist report for day 1:

It is unlikely that I am a stalker. While I am prone to obsessive habits, the facts point in other directions.

1.My email habits spike only in times when I feel I've done something wrong. As I am obsessive, I keep what I have sent out. In combination between deviantart and hotmail, I have sent a total of 46 messages in the past 120 days and have contacted the individual via messenger a total of 3 times. Averaging out to about once every three days. It is suggested that I clean out my email more often as not everything needs to be kept for "proof".

2.While I show an interest in the other party, I do not feel a need to know their whereabouts all the time. My interest is limited to the time I'm with this person and whenever this person is participating in a media of interest (i.e. plays). Interest in other scheduling does not exist.

3.While sexual desire is strong, there has been no warning signs of obsession. I have not built any shrines, stolen any garments, snapped any pictures, or done anything that exhibits the behavior of a stalker.

4.Affection being held for another for a long period of time is not uncommon. Having the same feelings as the day we met is just my mind telling me what I already know.

5.While it is difficult to determine without studying the other party, it is possible that they suffer from paranoia and/or trauma caused by rape and/or stalking. It is possible that the other party is hyper-sensitive to such.

6.The "catching" of my actions is nothing more than stress and anxiety taking over. Seeing as I do socially interact on deviantart, myspace, facebook, and good old wtf.com, nothing is out of the ordinary.I'm just in a time of hyper-sensitive awareness, kind of like that movie 23.

7.There is signs of dissociation, which is very apparent in my notebooks from when I was planning out my grandma's funeral last month. My method of putting everything in hiding involves mathematics, which is shown by the fact that not only was I planning costs for a funeral, but for my trip this week, the house I want in Seattle, the next three months of bills, and probability of getting my "perfect hand" in Magic: The Gathering. It is suggested that I seek group therapy.

8.My low self-esteem stems from events that I have locked away and do not talk about openly. Again, it is suggested I seek group therapy.

9.There is signs that I fear Christians. An unhealthy obsession with Leviticus 18:22 and hatred of child molesters stems from a life experience that I need to talk more about. It is again suggested I seek group therapy.

10.My panic attacks are a combination of stress and sleep deprivation. Get more sleep and find ways to relieve stress.

It is best to speak to the other party but only at a time when we are both ready.
 
I'm glad they told you the same thing I did, that it is, infact, unlikely you're a stalker.

Everything is a whirlwind right now, and up in the air.

You'll be alright. :thumbsup:
 
meh was right....most stalkers are never able to recognise they have a problem...the fact that you did made it less likely you were.
 
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