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Okay i'm 17 and I'm currently doing my HSC,i'm female and my family life..kinda sucks because there uncaring and dysfunctional all the time..so it makes me feel really cold inside, my dad used to fight alot with his new ex wife Lenka (I only live with mum and my sister who is in the same year as me).
And I am also a corporal in Australian Air Force Cadets which I order and direct people around.
But it seems that everywhere I go no matter what I join or do, people just don't seem to want to really know me (I always look blank this pushes people away) but I can't help it because it only deepens me with this depressing feeling.
And I really have nowhere to run for support so I keep it all inside..and it's just ruined me.
I don't like experiencing new things or even when people ask me out I don't go, because there just acquaintences there not really supporting me and I feel worse.
I just stay at home,or study this depresses me heaps too
Without love,without support,without anything
*Cries*
WHY ME WHY EVERYTHING..
I hate this all.
I hate everything.
I can't cry
Someone help me please
Please!!! PLEASE I'm never truely happy PLEASE!!!
I suppose everyone I have opened up to were the wrong people (and this affected me) because I don't usually open up to people or anyone anymore.
I don't trust much anymore..
It's so hard.
I just wish sometimes that someone just hugged me and said it was okay..
So in the end I just suffer in silence.
Struggling just to exist.
People don't respect me because I never stand up for myself.
It's because of my life that deepens my depression and hence I just become so low and people just crush me.
Now i'm just angry depressed or either just so badly depressed I really feel like killling myself.
Because there really is nothing I have
After all these years of school etc I really have gained nothing from anything.
I get alot of headspins...stressed..angry....depressed
I want to ask for help but i'm afraid of change of trying to change people will see my problems and I will end up feeling worse.
Like going to a school counsellor.
 
u need to change ure life,only u can make ure self go out n hav some fun,only u,can meet someone who will love only u,but u have to try,there is someone out there that will turn ure life around,if u just try,,good luck,hope u have a really nice day
 
Perhaps can I suggest you do not depend on other people for your happiness. It is a hard lesson to learn I know but one must first look at caring for and doing loving things for oneself in these situations. You know what you can do for you to make you feel a bit better and a bit more special, leaving all others out of the equation initially. Later you may decide that you could feel a little better if you put a little effort into being more approachable, smiling often helps breakdown any barriers with other people, try this sometimes.

Also whilst you say you are ordering other people around, think of them as you would yourself and appreciate that they too also will benefit from some encouragement and support from you should they be experiencing difficulties.

Private and a Forces Counseling service are available to you, it is a confidential service but to help yourself, sometimes one must trust another to help you.

Good wishes in achieving a positive outcome.

PS Number 8 is a much more auspicious number.
.....Yes - like going to a school counsellor....
 
I know this may sound really tough, but I'm talking from experience ~ before others can connect on a more intimate level ((& I don't mean sexual intimacy)) we have to be in touch with ourselves. It's rare to find a friend that can also counsel you through tough times, most friends are only on a superficial level....But that doesn't reflect on you, it's just how people are.

If you've had a dysfunctional family life it will make it more difficult for you to function 'normally' however the past is behind you ~ make the decision not to let it ruin you just for the next 5 minutes, then over the next 5 mins look at all the good points in your life....is it sunny? is there a bird singing?.Find something that makes you feel good just for now.....& keep doing this ~ that 5 minutes becomes an hour, a morning, a day, a week, do you see that over time you'll connect to a happier side of yourself & others will connect to that too!

There are so many different self-help techniques to help you through this, but ultimately that is the point 'self' help. No-one else can do that for you.

Good Luck & God Bless. *hug*
 
Your 17. It takes time to feel like you fit in. No matter how old you are and no matter where you go. Changes like joining things and meeting new people will take adjustments. Just because you changed your environment; doesn't mean that your going to just fit right in and everyone is going to love you. How can they get to know you and love you if your not letting them. You may be suffering with a mild case of depression. You need to go see a Doctor and he may be able to help.
 
Hey I feel ya..

Can only imagine what your situation is like. But I´d like to hear all about it. IM me if you´d like that...

Take care!

Caleb
 
You need to go out and meet true kind , friendly, communicative, fun, caring , sincere , loving , people and one way you can do that is getting involved with volunteer work or going to community events etc.
Try to remember that thier are many people that feel like you do. One main rule in life is hang around with positive friendly true friends and maturely disguard those that aren't the true friends we all know that we deserve in our lives.
What you're doing being in The Air Force Cadets is something to truly feel very proud about and you discussing your feelings etc is very healthy for you and shows your level of maturity is in fact increasing.
Our best defense and assist as a humanbeing is having the capabilty to communicate how we truly feel and not being afraid to recgonize what things or events or people in our lives are healthy and benefitial to our lives and what aren't.
At your age your struggling like most teens are to truly discover exactly who you are and exactly why you're here, plus you're reveluating what true honest love and friendships etc mean to you, all this is perfectly normal too.
Try not to be too hard on yourself bec believe it or not thier's many people out there that value you as a person and you mean a lot to this world.
Love isn't easy to come by whether it's a truly lasting friendship or relationship but when you're truly loved it's more then worth the wait.
You should try doing more things that make you truly happy or things you've always wanted to do, that will be enough to cause you more constant happiness and true smiles, bec laughter and a sincere friendly smile goes a long way and can be very containgous too.
Go with your gut and heart bec thier the most reliable possesions a humanbeing has.

Hope that helps and best of luck, by the way try to keep your head up and smile bec life is meant to enjoy
 
i dont know exactly what your asking but what you have to do is just put yourself out there and stop being blank...go out when people ask you and so on....hey life isnt fair so just make the best of it
 
So sorry that you're feeling so down. It sounds like you're suffering from a bit of depression and low self-esteem. As you probably figured out, people are drawn to other people who are happy - not those who are down on themselves and the world. In order for you to be happy, you're going to have to become happy with yourself. This is easier said than done, but if you take the time and work on it, you can get there. It sounds like you could benefit from talking to a counselor/therapist. It will also help if you're eating healthy foods, exercising and taking a multivitamin. A healthy body can go a long way towards a healthy mind.

It's pretty common for females your age to have these feelings. It may not be the last time either. Being happy with yourself if like any relationship; it takes work. As you age you will change and you'll need to keep up with who you're becoming as you mature.

I wish there was a quick remedy, but you'll make it through. Best of luck.
 
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