Some personal sex questions for those who are in a long term relationship.?

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I'm just curious;

-How long you've been in your relationship?
-How old either of you are?
-How often you have sex?
-If you have kids, how much has it affected how often you have sex?
-Do you wish you could have sex more? Or are you happy as it is?

Not that sex is that important, I just am really wondering how it will be and if it may change over time. I'm 23 my fiance is 43. We've only been together since September 16th 2008, living together since maybe 2 weeks after that. After I moved in I found out I'm pregnant with his baby, and we're both thrilled. I'm mostly curious about this because I've been in a 5 year live in relationship before. With my X, after the first 3 years our sex life pretty much stopped completely, we just lost interest in each other sexually, but we loved being around each other still, had no kids. I'dve maried him even knowing we'd never have sex ever again, but like I said, I do enjoy it. Is that what it's like in most relationships? I've not been in this new relationship long I know, but we are both really into each other and he's shown me how much he Truly cares and loves me. And I know I love him too. I know we'll be happy, and I don't need sex to be happy, but again, I do very much enjoy the sex. This being a new relationship, I'm wondering if having a baby will really impact our desire to have sex? Or will we just be that tired to not even bother?
As it is, for the first 3 months we had sex every day once a day and maybe once a week it was twice a day. Now it's never twice a day and maybe 4-5 times a week. If I had it my way we'd have sex 3-4 times every day at least. Is this a problem? I've talked to him about it and he's just not capable of doing it more then once a day, maybe the "newness" of it all was all the difference before, which I'm OK with. I'm not mad or angry, I'm just curious since this is the man I will be with the rest of my life. I just want to hear other peoples situations and get a gist of what life will be like in the future. If you have any other personal questions about this you'd like me to answer ask and I'll update this post with the answer. Thank you.
 
I have been married now for 4 yrs. I am 33 he is 43, ten yrs difference. I am at my horny peak, and he is going down the hill. sigh. I want sex every day. I am lucky if I get any a few times a month, if that. In the beginning it was quite different.

Throwing a child into the mix will definatly changes things. Thats part of the reason for lack of enthusiasm. And throw in jobs and just everyday stress.

You are young, he is old, your expecting a child. Who pays the bills?

Good luck.
 
-How long you've been in your relationship? 5+ years
-How old either of you are? Mid-forties
-How often you have sex? Enough
-If you have kids, how much has it affected how often you have sex? No kids
-Do you wish you could have sex more? Or are you happy as it is? Happy


Please note that every couple is different. For some, sex every day still isn't enough. For others, we take quality over quantity and have sex 1-2 times a week and are happy.
 
Sorry, but everything in your post SCREAMS "Sex is the most important thing in my relationship". With a 20 year age difference, you're going to be disappointed.
 
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