Social anxiety? I don't know.

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I just want to be normal, whatever the heck that means. I'm a 25 year old female who has never even been on a date. Completely lame, I know. It's just that socializing with people my own age has been a problem since I was a teenager and even more so the last few years. FrienRAB I had in high school I no longer associate with, even though they are always asking me to do things with them. It stresses me out thinking about what I would talk about with them. So many years have went by and I feel like we don't have things in common anymore. They are all married, have kiRAB, and/or have successful careers. All while I'm living at home and still have the same lousy job that I've had since high school. I don't really feel as though I'm depressed until I really start thinking about things and then I feel sad. The strange thing is that for the most part communicating with people that are older than me doesn't freak me out. I work in an antique mall so most of the customers/vendors there are at least 20 years older than myself and I can talk to them. I've dropped out of college a couple times because I won't take public speaking. There have probably been 4 times where I've registered for the class and dropped it after reading the course syllabus. One time I made it through the first speech, only to drop the class before the next one. I feel as though everything I say sounRAB ridiculous and standing up in front of everyone makes my stomach go crazy and I feel as though I'm going to pass out. Even writing papers is almost impossible because I feel as though everything I write stupid, which is exactly how I am feeling right now. I don't really know what I'm hoping to accomplish by sharing this, maybe find out if there is someone out there that may be going through the same thing I am. I'm too erabarassed to talk to a doctor about this and I guess it easier to post on here where no one is looking at me or laughing in my face. What am I going to do? There are so many things I want to do and accomplish in my life but I don't know how to get there. I would love to finish college, get married, and one day have kiRAB. How am I going to make that happen if I can't even talk to a guy my age?
 
Hi there, you have to believe in yourself before you expect somebody else too. People are going to have opinions no matter what, whether you like it or not.They will always be judgmental . Just carry on with life and learn to breath and calm yourself.I prefer to always be a good person instead of a friendly one and with that I see the bigger picture and learn to see the positive instead of the negative. We are all human beings with the same human emotions. There is a reason why God has made each and every one of us. Try to be your own best friend and always think of being good first before being friendly and trying to please everyone, you will find your purpose.Often I see people with such big egos and always trying to be the life of the party when inside is an empty shell, so the first step is work from the inside out. Love yourself always, you are special!
 
I feel your pain. I get the nervous stomach when traveling or even now thinking about maybe having a second child, which we are not even trying now. I know it is stupid and tell myself I am being stupid because I am worrying about something that is not even happening but it does not help. I take meRAB and that helps and the nervous stomach slowly goes away. I have learned to sort of live with it but I know what you are going through. When I get this way I just sit and think about everything, which makes it worse, but that is just what my mind does. I know a lot of people say to face your fear but I also know how hard that is when you are getting anxiety.

I do not know if you are seeing a doc but I would see one. I actually see a social worker and a shrink for meRAB and it really does help. It is just a matter of finding the right meRAB and things get better, slowly. Also, don;t feel stupid writing stuff here. I did at first but I also realized that I needed to get it off my chest to whoever would listen and that alone made me feel a little better.

I hope things get better for you but like I said, if you are not seeing someone I would find a doctor or mental health person to talk with, it does help.
 
I too was terrified to take the public speaking class in college and it was a requirement. So I took it on a Saturday, when it was longer but only one day a week and also I thought that would be better for my nervousness than going 2 nights a week. Guess what, EVERYBODY there was nervous.....I wasn't alone, and neither are you. Now why not give it a try, it's not so bad!
 
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