So here's a question for you

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threesevens

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I've pretty much given up the concept that there are genuinely good people out there.

Where do you meet people that are worth the time? I've tried coffee shops, libraries, churches... the bars seem to be good luck for many people, and I suspect I'll be having a raging hangover for the next three days or so to test that theory out.

I'm just about done bothering. I'm about at that point where I'm going to work, and I'm going to come home. that's it. I've become so fed up with people's stupidity, thoughtlessness, and downright spitefulness that it's hard to see the point in dealing with them at all.

Oh well. Thus is life.
 
I've always picked up new friends at the bookstore, but that's kind of because I'm a bit of a nerd.

After I meet them and talk for a while, we either grab coffee or go grab drinks.

However, I'm not exactly all that social anymore. I have a few close friends, and a lot of people that know me, but the ones that I do hang out with are my closest.
 
Coffee shops, the place people go to talk behind there friends backs, and to talk for hours on end about drama.

Libraries, where people go when they are out of ideas, or to learn. We have the internet, and anyone with out access to the internet most likely has no money and no friends, hence going to the library.

Churches, yeah, those fuckers are ALWAYS sane.

Bars aren't too bad, but it all comes down to the bar. If you go to a hole in the wall that few people know about, you could meet some cool people. Going to the corner bar could simply get you into a fight.

You have a hobbie that you do? Something other than living? I got a Jeep, and am in a few Jeep and offroad clubs. Theres some cool motherfuckers there. I've had guys offer to drive to where I'm at to help me do hard shit.

They got clubs for MMO's, star trek (those fuckers are wierd, but not too bad) you name it.
 
The martial arts community seem like a group of decent guys. The non-bullshit ones, anyway. And they are always weeding out the assholes in their midst.

And it's surprisingly small. If you go from one school to a different state and enroll in a school in the same art, chances are you'll meet someone who either knows people from your old school or knows people who do.
 
most "good people" dont go out in public because they're fed up with people. I would suggest just not looking for people and letting the people appear to you. When a situation presents itself and you see someone taking interest in what you find interesting as well, strike up a convo.

Another elusive breed of "good person" is someone that has mildly assimilated to the status quot and has seemingly become a moron. Just look to see who is being genuine about ignorant ramblings and who is just there for the friends. Then divide and conquer.
 
it seems the good friends show up at odd times and at odd places. Often they show up at work or places like that, but do not force it.

forcing it tends to scare people away.
 
What the fuck are you doing trying to find "good" people anyway? Ahhh... You haven't grown up and realized how futile such efforts are.

Here's the deal dude. People are pieces of shit. Every once in a great while, you will randomly stumble upon someone who seems halfway decent and worth the effort of trying to be friends with. I'd say they're probably about 2% of the population. about 4 out of 5 times, after you spend the time and effort to get acquainted with these people, they will fuck you over for their own personal benefit, even if only in some small and fairly insignificant way. This is not unreasonable behavior. It's a biological imperative that people place themselves above others. Survival of the fittest and all that.

The remaining 20% of these people who seem good and decent upon first meeting them(the original 2%) , are selfless, generous, and would give you the shirt off their back. Problem is, they're usually broken in some fundamental way. Physically or mentally challenged, or deeply emotionally disturbed.

So, everyone is fucked up in their own way. How does one cope? How does one find companionship in a world where everyone is out for themselves, and most people have about as much intelligence as a piece of melba toast? There's two ways, as far as I can tell.

1. lower your standards. Hang out with some of the everyday assholes and buffoons that you encounter on a daily basis. It's mind numbing, frustrating, and somewhat upsetting, but at least you'll have some people to hang out with. it helps to keep in mind that there are people who probably think you're a stupid thoughtless asshole too, without you ever understanding why they think that.

2. Drop some of your needs. Just come to terms with the fact that the overwhelming majority of people are going to disappoint you, and you don't need that shit. Be a loner, or be happy with a small group of friends; The good people you are fortunate enough to stumble across from time to time. Trying to find cool people in certain places is useless, because they're just so rare, and they have all different interests, and come from all different backgrounds, that there is no one place you can go to find them. Just learn to recognize them when you do find them. You also may find that when you find one really good, cool, generous person, they will probably have a group of friends who are also good, cool, generous people.
 
Throw the kid a bone, he summed it up perfectly.





Dear sweet fucking God, I feel like crap. I have a hearing test at 10; this is not going to be fun.

I'm pretty sure I threw up four times last night. The bar's cook went home early so I drank 5 hours on an empty stomach.

Kill me please.
 
Five hours on an empty stomach isn't very good. :sad:

I'm assuming you've eaten since then. Get some nutrients in your body, and drink plenty of water today.
 
Lots of ibuprofen and some water. Also Cherry Pepsi and Arby's.

Everything that wasn't original equipment has been evacuated through one orifice or another.

Still don't know what to do in this damn town. There isn't much of anything to do outside of the bars and the only hobbies around here are motorsports and hobbyshop stuff. I can't keep dating my friends, because I was running low on those before and now they're almost all gone.

I've pretty much decided that, despite what everyone around here is telling me, that churches aren't a very good option. Sure they're full of nice people but it never seems to work out.

As for bookstores, we have...one. And it's no Barnes and Noble either. And the used bookstores aren't exactly places to hang out either.

This town is so polarized it's hard to find a place to fit into sometimes. But I was born and raised here and don't want to leave.
 
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