so he comes home and nothing but this?

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hinata.rain

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i put on a nice dress that was supposed to be a long skirt but fixed it up nice. i thought i looked nice. then my boyfriend comes home and the first thing he tells me is what are you wearing it looks like a pregnant dress. basically saying i look preg. im already self obsessing over my body after having a baby so of course this killed me emotionally. im not fat but my body hasnt gone to how i looked before prego days. so now im mad at him. do you think i should be mad or whats his problem? he said he didnt call me fat or preg he was just saying what he thought. i would of liked to hear that i looked nice. not only that i usually cook for us by the time he comes home from work but sometimes im too tired to cook so i dont, what pisses me off now is that anytime i dont cook he goes into the kitchen and makes HIMSELF something easy to eat but doesnt bother asking me if i want anything... i dont know what to do.... im tired of feeling uncared for and then cared for occasionally.
i have talked about it. then it turns to a argument because hes turns more insensitive;(
 
then you need to tell him exactly what you just told us. tell him the negative comments are not wanted anymore and when he fixes something to eat can he please offer you something. he seems self centered. you need to speak up now before things really get out of hand.
 
he is obviously not having any respect for you.
You shouldn't be mad in a way where you're not
saying anything to him or yelling at him... but you
should be like look, i basically work my ass off here
for us and you're just taking it for granted. He should be
respecting you by getting you something to eat but
he's taking it for granted. And you trying to look nice for
him and him not saying you look good- trust me it's happened
to me too plenty of times and yea you should be upset about that
you get all dollled up thinking you look great then you get put down
and feel like crap. It sucks so bad i know, but guys are jerks and
always will be. That's just how it is, they don't have the same mind
sets as we do.
I wouldn't blow this whole thing out of proportion tho, so don't do
that. You just need to talk to him even though you are mad.
PS. if you just had a kid and you have a little weight still on
you don't stress hun! Who cares, your body just went through
hell it's gonna take some time. But no matter what your man
should always think you look good.
Keep your head up,
good luck<3
 
I don't know if you should be too mad about him not acknowledging that you looked good, guys do not think most the time, it happens... You might want to mention it by not making it a big deal... On the food thing, while he is making it ask him if he will make you some too(nicely if possible) after doing it a couple times he should ask you before hand if you want some... If he doesn't start asking him as he leaves the kitchen when he just finished making his food, that way he will definitely start asking you if you want some. Guys do not always think, at least i don't, so you have to make it clear to them. =)
 
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