Gotta tell you - I've never been "had" to make a display - EVER of maleness or anything else. I've always been popular, have succeeded academically and in my career - and my partner and I are now technically inside the upper class, income wise.
NO ONE EVER has to put themselves forth to satisfy others unless they decide to. And, furthermore -- their success is NEVER predicated on putting themselves forth in the way you are discussing, except in a very primitive culture.
I certainly don't care and would laugh openly in anyone's face that tried to force me to so waste my time, resources and energy. NO ONE should be part of such a game.
Regards,
Hermes