Should you marry a person if they were wanting to have sex with another person and...

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...they chat? I am confused because I found my fiance chatting with one of my friends other friends about having sex with them. The chats were horrible with the nastiest things I've ever heard. He wanted to meet her on numerous occasions but she never responded to his invites. Do you think he would have meet with her? I confronted him about it and he admitted to chatting with her. We are expected to be married in October and I don't know what to do. He is not speaking with her anymore but the fact that he may have met with her and cheated. It broke my heart. We've been together for three years and this is the first occurrence that I know of. I wanted to get some advice. Should I marry him and forgive him or do you think he will do it again?
 
Be careful. You may have caught the tip of the iceberg. He could be a cheater, leading you into a marriage that will be laced with a lot of hurt. If you think you can trust him, I would get counseling before getting married. Did he fess up, or try to blame someone else for what he did? Is he being forthcoming?
 
are you serious? if he wants to have sex with some one else, LEAVE NOW!!! dont get married to an ass that will most likely cheat on you later... do you really think getting married will change his? probably not
 
i would put it off. if he could hurt u like that now he will only hurt u worse later. i would try counseling if he wont go then u will know leaving is the best thing in the long run.
 
I think the first thing you need to ask yourself is do you still trust him. If you do trust him then go ahead and marry him. There are a lot of couples who get through someone cheating but trust is key. If you no longer trust him then I say don't go though with the wedding. Most couples who have no trust for eachother fight a lot and tend to be unhappy. In the end it is your decision to make. Good Luck!
 
Don't marry him until you know all the facts and root causes. Go to couples counseling. Make sure you know the who what where why when how and how come of this behavior before making a committment to be with him forever.
 
Honestly, I would not marry him at all right now. There are certain things you do not do and he broke that rule.
 
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