My son is getting married in a year. So far my son has chosen his brother as his best man, and five groomsmen. Most of the groomsmen are his best friends of many years; the brother of the bride is not close friends with my son but he was also chosen as a groomsmen. The bride has no sisters, she plans to choose six friends as bridesmaids and a maid of honor. She has told my daughter that she can be a greeter. I feel that my daughter should have been asked to be a bridesmaid, because she has known her for eight years and is close to her big brother. I believe this is an opportunity to join two families, leaving my daughter out seems like a bad way to start a relationship. I dread looking at the wedding pictures for thirty years that don't include my daughter. Remember, the brides only brother has been included, but the grooms only sister has been left out.
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Should the only sister of the groom be in the wedding party?
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june cleaver
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I SAY
THE GROOM NEEDS A BROOM
A ROLLING STONE GATHERS NO MOSS
3M
IT BEHOOVS YOU
THE GROOM NEEDS A BROOM
A ROLLING STONE GATHERS NO MOSS
3M
IT BEHOOVS YOU
Personally, I think it's stupid not to include your future sister-in-law as a bride's maid. What a way to start off, hurting the feelings of the future aunt and grandparent of your children. It's also pretty bad of your son not to have said anything about his own sister being left out, didn't he think it was important enough to speak up?
The BTB has every right and no obligation to include the groom's sister in her bevy of maidens. And it would be really bad form for you to complain to her about it; you'll only come across as the bitter, interfering MIL. The best that you can probably do is to gently ask your son about it without making a big deal out of it and then step back.
Both you and your daughter need to roll your eyes behind her back and move on with whatever these two insensitive chuckle heads want to do. There is no sense in creating any drama, people will ask why your daughter wasn't included and that will make the BTB look bad without anyone else getting involved.
The BTB has every right and no obligation to include the groom's sister in her bevy of maidens. And it would be really bad form for you to complain to her about it; you'll only come across as the bitter, interfering MIL. The best that you can probably do is to gently ask your son about it without making a big deal out of it and then step back.
Both you and your daughter need to roll your eyes behind her back and move on with whatever these two insensitive chuckle heads want to do. There is no sense in creating any drama, people will ask why your daughter wasn't included and that will make the BTB look bad without anyone else getting involved.
Don't fret so. It's really the bride's call. Let her do what she wants to do and don't be hurt if it's not as you'd like it to be. You make good points but just let it be. Please don't interfere. You'll have a good, maybe favorite, grandmother status after the couple starts a family and your daughter will be an auntie, maybe the favorite too. Let it all happen.