Should My Husband judge me on my past?

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babyenrique20

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Im talking about sexual times in High School.. Which include 5 different guys, until i met him.

We talked about our past relationships when we first met. I now know he was lying about his, just to sound cool and not be ashame about himself. He was 3yrs older than me. Mamas boy. and had only been with 1 girl.

This is what I told him. Which he still brings up.. and we end up fighting and I end up getting punched and beaten up for it..

I will explain..

1st Guy.. took off my Virginity at 13 going on 14.. after 8grade going to 9th(summer). Had sex with him a few times and a few times inside my house when my mom wasnt home..He later cheated on me. and He has family members 2 houses from were my mom lives..

2nd guy.. I was 14 old..Gangster wannabe.. who I told my husband he was my number 1 as far as sex.. all time.. we broke up and i later still did it with him in his house.. 9th grade.

3rd guy.. I was 15yrs old..Sporty guy.. only lasted a few months with him.. did it with him a few times..

4th Guy.. 15yrs old...he was a virgin.. I took his virginity and later broked up with him and made fun at him for his penis size in front of his friends..after he was calling me a b..tch.

5th guy.. 15-16yrs old..met him in ROTC .. was in the marines.. later found out he had 2kids but no longer with the mom.. i continued dating him.. we would do it.. in the woods..close to a river.. in his car.. on my bed.. you name it.. was 3yrs older than me.. he was already graduated and had 1yr in USMC when i started going out with him in 2004.. lasted 10months.


Why does my husband keep bringing it up and cry about my past.. now that we have 2kids.. He cant believe i was like this from age 13-16
 
I DONT EVEN HAVE TO READ THE WHOLE QUESTION , IF HE HITS YOU YOU SHOULD GET RID(LEAVE) OF HIM THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT
 
I think the fact that he hits you is a bigger problem than what you did in the past. I have always said,"You can't change the past, but you can change the future." I think it is time for you to take a hand of your future and find someone with more maturity to dismiss high school adolescence and think of what you offer now.

I assume that if your having "relationships" like this at an early age and is in a releationship where getting hit is not as important as trying to get her dude to forget her past 'relationships" means that you might have selfesteem issues. I have always said, as well, " You need to be in love with yourself before you can be in love with another." No one should be dependant on another for love.

Conquer those things I mentioned and you will be headed in the right direction. I think your trying to solve your problems the wrong way and need to think clearly.

Not bad for a football dude. :-)

Thumbs up to those who agree.
 
your husband hits you?!! hes a f**Kin punk leave that srry excuse of a "man" everyone has a past who cares what you did in hs thats done if i saw your husband id bust his head open
 
He married you right?This was part of what he gets tell him you can't change that.It shouldn"t matter anyways.
 
We as men like to think that our women are/were virginal little women who learn all the tricks(no pun) of the trade from us. Of course your man is jealous that you had more experiments sexually than he.
I dated a chic who "dated" quite a few guys before too. She told me in the beginning, not right away of course but before things got too serious. I think the problem I had was not wanting to keep bumping into these guys at the stores, or on the street and have them laughing at me for dating what we called a doorknob (cuz everyone took a turn).
At 13 I am sure you thought you were being all grown up and all that but I am sure most of these experiences werent even pleasurable to you. And that Is another thing that plays with his head..."Were they better than me? Was that one guys penis the size of mine(or bigger haha)?" Etc
Now the way to fix this is to tell him that none of these guys compares to him and that you wish you could have found him first before being ignorant and looking for love from guys who only wanted one thing from you.
My advice is that women should never tell men the actual number, or any details of thier past sexual exploits. Cut the number in half, and say that the rest were unsatisfying.
We men are stupid cavemen who would rather be lied to then hear the truth of our womens sexual history.Tell us were the best out the few experiences you had and that we really taught you something about sexual pleasure. Ya were stupid, even if we dont believe it we like to hear it.
By the way, your man is a punk bitch if he hits you, and your a dumbass for staying with him. But let me guess " He loves me!" Dump him and use my advice on your next man who should be a real man. Truthfully, he will never let those facts go, and if he hit you once, he'll do it again, and again, and again. Teaching your children that this is how life really is. Do all of you a favor and move on. Your man has issues that cant be solved by you.

Standing Eagle
 
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