I have already put this question up but its so no where near being "resolved".
So i am 20 (soon 21) and my girlfriend Demi is 17 (nearly 18) we have been together since august last year. She has been my best friend for the past 3 years ive known her and to me our relationship was..unexpected. For the past 8 months we've been together (in which our parents and friends have only know for 6 months) we have been perfectly happy just being, but now we both feel we want to move forward and maybe become more serious. So we have been talking a lot about the future and maybe having sex. She says she wants me to take her virginity and she seems very sure that she wants to do it. The thing is that we both have an abstinence vow and so have promised to remain "pure" till marriage. Both my brothers have taken the vow and my eldest brother got married last year and Ive spoken to him about it (no one else) and he says that its impossible to explain the connection that you get from waiting and the bond you form between you and your wife - but, although i know demi is the one, I'm so not ready to get married. The vow means a lot to my family but Demi means more. You see I tried avoiding her asking me straight whether we should or not (have sex) and she got really upset. I'm giving her a promise ring for our 9 month aniversary this month (may) and she has hinted that we should have sex then. So please, what do you think? Help?
So i am 20 (soon 21) and my girlfriend Demi is 17 (nearly 18) we have been together since august last year. She has been my best friend for the past 3 years ive known her and to me our relationship was..unexpected. For the past 8 months we've been together (in which our parents and friends have only know for 6 months) we have been perfectly happy just being, but now we both feel we want to move forward and maybe become more serious. So we have been talking a lot about the future and maybe having sex. She says she wants me to take her virginity and she seems very sure that she wants to do it. The thing is that we both have an abstinence vow and so have promised to remain "pure" till marriage. Both my brothers have taken the vow and my eldest brother got married last year and Ive spoken to him about it (no one else) and he says that its impossible to explain the connection that you get from waiting and the bond you form between you and your wife - but, although i know demi is the one, I'm so not ready to get married. The vow means a lot to my family but Demi means more. You see I tried avoiding her asking me straight whether we should or not (have sex) and she got really upset. I'm giving her a promise ring for our 9 month aniversary this month (may) and she has hinted that we should have sex then. So please, what do you think? Help?