Should I talk to my mother in law or ask my husband to talk to her?

[loveangel]

Okay... I have been married a little over a year ... and I have a really intelligent mother in law. she has almost received her phd but dropped before finishing it. Anyways... since I have married her son ... it seems like she has disagreed with everything I think. I got pregnant and said I wanted to have a home birth and wanted to have a completely natural birth IF i choose to go to the hospital. She continuously told me how I would change my mind and tried to convince having a baby at home is unsafe. etc. I have almost completed a bacherlors at the same college she attended and I have done my own research and have decided things for myself. Recently, I decided to talk to my husband about attending Peace Corps which he is hesitant about ... and so i just mentioned it to her. Again... she was completely against it and was very negative. Now, today my brother in law who is a very big jerk.. brought up that how stupid the peace corps is and all this stuff. He told my husband that he needs to put me in check and that I need to stop badgering their mom. So, i told my husband to ask what I badger her about ... and he said that I argue with her when my husband is not around ... when all I feel like I do is disagree with her point of view... which is alright. Anyways ... my brother in law brought it up because my mother in law won't. This really hurts my feelings and makes me kind of mad at my husband because in some way I feel like he should defend me and he really didn't.Should I talk to my mother in law and if so... how would I bring it up?