wow. k. long story. here goes.
I met this guy through a friend of mine, and he started flirting with me. I checked with my friend, and she said she didn't like him any more than a friend, so i started flirting back. then this guy (let's call him jhon) told me it was probably better that my friend (let's call her beth) didn't know that we were flirting, cause it might be kinda akward for her.
So I found out that beth and jhon had actually been flirting with each other the whole time that jhon and I had been flirting, and that jhon was kinda a player. ugh. anyways i didn't feel like i really had the right to ask him not to flirt with her, cause he wanted to date, but i told him i wanted to wait awhile and see how we felt about each other in about a month.
So as time went by, jhon eventually told me that he was in love with me (2 weeks after we started texting each other), and I kinda fell for it, and said it back to him. And things went pretty okay from there, but i still wanted to wait that full month and see how i felt about him cause he kinda moved our relationship really really fast. faster than i liked......
So time continued on, and at the end of that month, he told me he wasn't really ready for dating, and didn't want to date anyone until he graduated. Especially since it wouldn't be fair to me and beth cause we were both flirting with him, and beth still didn't know that jhon and i liked each other like that. So guess what jhon did next? two days after he told me he didn't want to date anyone until he graduated, he told me he didn't wan't to lead me on anymore, and revealed that he got a girlfriend the night before. Fantastic. I was heart broken. He wouldn't even call me on the phone when I asked to hear it from his voice, cause we never really dated. He said all we had was a bond, no physical relations, which meant i wasn't really being dumped, and therefore he didn't need to call me.
So I thought of him as a jerk for awhile, and eventually told beth that we had been flirting. Beth was pretty mad at me, but we worked out our feelings, and got over the whole being dumped by jhon thing together. But i still had feelings for this guy. (and still do.) We started texting that night, cause we had some things to settle with him, and he told us that we were worthless, and too much drama for him to deal with. ouch.... that really hurt.....
moving on, i've been seeing jhon around my school alot more lately, cause he comes to visit his girlfriend. and beth doesn't know it, but i still have major feelings for him. she comes to me for comfort all the time about him, but doesn't allow me to come to her for comfort, cause she says i never really loved, i just lusted him. and she had no right to say that, cause i never told her about how i felt about him. she wouldn't really let me. so i got pissed at her and told her she had no right to say that, cause i really did love this kid. and i wanted this fight to end our friendship, cause i don't really like beth anyways. she likes to focus on herself a lot, and i just didn't want to be constantly dealing with all of her problems anymore. but she almost started crying, and that made me feel bad, so i didn't end our friendship like i had wanted too.
Now i have something i really really want to ask jhon, but i'm not sure if i should/can. He was a jerk to me, but he's that type of person who pushes you away when you get too close. I don't want to end things between us, but he has a girlfriend (as far as i know. they could've broken up already), and i'm not sure if those things he said about me were really true or not. so should i talk to him? Cause I'd really like to ask him about what's been on my mind, but i'm not really sure if should bother him. and then there's the whole thing with beth.... grrr.
please help me people.
ps. he told me he didn't love me anymore, but i'm still not sure if that's because he was just pushing me away or not.
I met this guy through a friend of mine, and he started flirting with me. I checked with my friend, and she said she didn't like him any more than a friend, so i started flirting back. then this guy (let's call him jhon) told me it was probably better that my friend (let's call her beth) didn't know that we were flirting, cause it might be kinda akward for her.
So I found out that beth and jhon had actually been flirting with each other the whole time that jhon and I had been flirting, and that jhon was kinda a player. ugh. anyways i didn't feel like i really had the right to ask him not to flirt with her, cause he wanted to date, but i told him i wanted to wait awhile and see how we felt about each other in about a month.
So as time went by, jhon eventually told me that he was in love with me (2 weeks after we started texting each other), and I kinda fell for it, and said it back to him. And things went pretty okay from there, but i still wanted to wait that full month and see how i felt about him cause he kinda moved our relationship really really fast. faster than i liked......
So time continued on, and at the end of that month, he told me he wasn't really ready for dating, and didn't want to date anyone until he graduated. Especially since it wouldn't be fair to me and beth cause we were both flirting with him, and beth still didn't know that jhon and i liked each other like that. So guess what jhon did next? two days after he told me he didn't want to date anyone until he graduated, he told me he didn't wan't to lead me on anymore, and revealed that he got a girlfriend the night before. Fantastic. I was heart broken. He wouldn't even call me on the phone when I asked to hear it from his voice, cause we never really dated. He said all we had was a bond, no physical relations, which meant i wasn't really being dumped, and therefore he didn't need to call me.
So I thought of him as a jerk for awhile, and eventually told beth that we had been flirting. Beth was pretty mad at me, but we worked out our feelings, and got over the whole being dumped by jhon thing together. But i still had feelings for this guy. (and still do.) We started texting that night, cause we had some things to settle with him, and he told us that we were worthless, and too much drama for him to deal with. ouch.... that really hurt.....
moving on, i've been seeing jhon around my school alot more lately, cause he comes to visit his girlfriend. and beth doesn't know it, but i still have major feelings for him. she comes to me for comfort all the time about him, but doesn't allow me to come to her for comfort, cause she says i never really loved, i just lusted him. and she had no right to say that, cause i never told her about how i felt about him. she wouldn't really let me. so i got pissed at her and told her she had no right to say that, cause i really did love this kid. and i wanted this fight to end our friendship, cause i don't really like beth anyways. she likes to focus on herself a lot, and i just didn't want to be constantly dealing with all of her problems anymore. but she almost started crying, and that made me feel bad, so i didn't end our friendship like i had wanted too.
Now i have something i really really want to ask jhon, but i'm not sure if i should/can. He was a jerk to me, but he's that type of person who pushes you away when you get too close. I don't want to end things between us, but he has a girlfriend (as far as i know. they could've broken up already), and i'm not sure if those things he said about me were really true or not. so should i talk to him? Cause I'd really like to ask him about what's been on my mind, but i'm not really sure if should bother him. and then there's the whole thing with beth.... grrr.
please help me people.
ps. he told me he didn't love me anymore, but i'm still not sure if that's because he was just pushing me away or not.