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I was seeing a guy for a while - he showered my child with attention trips and toys.
I had found he was on a dating site a few months ago and told him I was going to end it but he said he wanted to make it work and lied why he was on the site. My child was distraught when I said I wanted to end it with the guy.
He didnt' have much time for me but rang every day and text and just saw us one day a week and at weekends when we would go out as a family with his child or go out as a couple with his friends. I was introduced as his girlfriend and his family even gave me cards and presents for Christmas??? I had a feeling things were not good as I did not feel close to him but every time I asked what he wanted to do he said he wanted to be with me but liked his space. I gave him plenty of opportunites to end it. He invited me and my child for Christmas - told me he loved me - showered my child with more attention promises (lies) and toys. We spent boxing day together then he made excuses that I had to go as he was working but he kept getting suspicious calls and texts and I could tell he was lying to me. The next night when he called I asked when he wanted to see me next he made excuses and then said he didnt want to spend New Years Eve together when I had gone to a lot of trouble to get a sitter - he went from wanting a relationship talking of the future together to 'just dating' to a casual relationship in one phone call!!! I did what he expected me to do and what any self respecting woman would do - I said I could not do this anymore and he said if that was the way I wanted it....
2 nights later I got a text from his number obviously not meant for me but using my pet name saying he had deleted his profile. I text it was me - he text back it was not meant for me and made up some lie! my child is so upset and is confused. I wanted it to work but he turned out to be a lying gutless coward.who threw his money at my child and boasted all the time of his wealth! I work full time and told him I am not interested in his money as I supported me and my child without help from anyone! I have gone from being tearful to angry and now am so annoyed with myself for not listening to that inner voice all that time! I want to rant to him to say he could of waited til we finished before replacing me as he kept saying if I was not happy not to sleep with another but to tell him and I would not see him for dust! how contradictive! I feel really uncomfortable and sad that someone would treat me that way when all I did was be honest and loving toward him.
I had found he was on a dating site a few months ago and told him I was going to end it but he said he wanted to make it work and lied why he was on the site. My child was distraught when I said I wanted to end it with the guy.
He didnt' have much time for me but rang every day and text and just saw us one day a week and at weekends when we would go out as a family with his child or go out as a couple with his friends. I was introduced as his girlfriend and his family even gave me cards and presents for Christmas??? I had a feeling things were not good as I did not feel close to him but every time I asked what he wanted to do he said he wanted to be with me but liked his space. I gave him plenty of opportunites to end it. He invited me and my child for Christmas - told me he loved me - showered my child with more attention promises (lies) and toys. We spent boxing day together then he made excuses that I had to go as he was working but he kept getting suspicious calls and texts and I could tell he was lying to me. The next night when he called I asked when he wanted to see me next he made excuses and then said he didnt want to spend New Years Eve together when I had gone to a lot of trouble to get a sitter - he went from wanting a relationship talking of the future together to 'just dating' to a casual relationship in one phone call!!! I did what he expected me to do and what any self respecting woman would do - I said I could not do this anymore and he said if that was the way I wanted it....
2 nights later I got a text from his number obviously not meant for me but using my pet name saying he had deleted his profile. I text it was me - he text back it was not meant for me and made up some lie! my child is so upset and is confused. I wanted it to work but he turned out to be a lying gutless coward.who threw his money at my child and boasted all the time of his wealth! I work full time and told him I am not interested in his money as I supported me and my child without help from anyone! I have gone from being tearful to angry and now am so annoyed with myself for not listening to that inner voice all that time! I want to rant to him to say he could of waited til we finished before replacing me as he kept saying if I was not happy not to sleep with another but to tell him and I would not see him for dust! how contradictive! I feel really uncomfortable and sad that someone would treat me that way when all I did was be honest and loving toward him.