Should I let the state go after father for child support or hire a lawyer?

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My now ex-bf of 5 yrs decided to leave me when I told him I was pregnant. We had a pregnancy a couple of yrs ago, he was happy and was all for it, sadly it ended in a miscarrige after my 18th week.
This time I carried for full term, but by the 30th week he decided this wasn't for him and he's left the state.
I have a very secure well paying job but I do want child support. If I get onto state aid the state will pursue him for back support although it'll take awhile. I can afford a lawyer and get him sooner. However, since he's out of state I'd have to hire another lawyer just to get him served.

Should I just let the state get him for paternity and back child support then hire a lawyer to get more child support or should I just hire a lawyer and get it over with?
 
I hope you are more responsible with your child than you are with spawning out of marriage. Get a lawyer and get him to support the child. It's not the states responsibility that you slept around and got pregnant. Next time wait until the ring is on your finger and the law is on your side, or just raise the child you created alone and for get about him and call it one of life's hard lessons.
 
you know the state it will take months but with positive results. you just gotta be patient, and the justice will be served. do not hire a lawyer cause the state pays people to catch dead beat farthers. when that happens, he has to answer to them, if he dosent respond he making it hard on himself, either pay or go to jail
 
Liz S. What a wildly inappropriate response. Gues it's difficult to shoehorn correct information into such a small, ignorant mind. Infertile and bitter?

Child support is a child's right. The state receives $2-$4 for every dollar the child receives. It actually benefits everyone for a child to be supported by their parent.
 
Liz S. What a wildly inappropriate response. Gues it's difficult to shoehorn correct information into such a small, ignorant mind. Infertile and bitter?

Child support is a child's right. The state receives $2-$4 for every dollar the child receives. It actually benefits everyone for a child to be supported by their parent.
 
I would absolutely hire a lawyer. The state's resources are going to be extremely slow and they probably will not do as much to locate your ex at all. A lawyer can def. help the system along. A quick resolution is the best thing in these situations rather than allowing it to drag out.
 
I guess it depends on how fast you want this resolved, and how much you can financially afford. Attorney fees can be enormous especially if your ex is out of state.

Good luck.
 
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