Should I kick my adult son out all at once or build up to it?

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I've been telling my son that it is probobly time to get his own place, he is 29 and moved back home when his relationship fell apart. Oh well. He seems too comfy here.
So I was thinking rather than put everything out at once, I thought I would start by giving him a tent, a really nice one...the kind that has the awning out front....and slowly start putting his things in a bag.
Any other tips for getting him out?
 
Why do you want him out? I mean, is he free loading off you? If so, say son...I am always going to love you, but, I am not doing you any favors by letting your live here with no responsibilities. If he can help you financially for a while, and share expenses maybe it will be alright and you can get ahead a bit and take a vacation or something. If you are just used to having your own freedom and space...then say...I love you...but I really am done with raising children>(huge exaggeration on children at age 29!) and I want to enjoy seeing you come over not regret having you here everyday. Make sure you let him know you love him.
 
kick him out all at once, watch step brothers they do a great job portraying this. Otherwise he will hang around until he is 40!
 
Ultimatums. Set standards and give him some time. I know, he's had plenty of time but he's probably way too comfortable. Make him pay for his food, do his own laundry and pay rent. Once he gets used to that, he should be able to handle it on his own. The longer you put this off, the longer he'll be there. He's putting down roots!
 
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