Should i have sex with my boyfriend?

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ok we've been together for 4 mnths he's really sweet does a lot for me and i'm really attracted to him...we love each other very much and he wants to take it to another level and make love the phn sex is amazing and he things he can do is mind blowing but i juz had a bad miscarriage in jan n it wasn't his we didnt even know each other but im terified from the experience it was really bad....but i want to make love so bad......we're going to spend a wekend together and i told him we weren't having sex he questioned it a lil but respected my decision but i really want him wat should i do and im not birth control yet but very soon
 
The best thing that u could do is that don't have sex until your married. If he really loves you then he can wait. U said that you two love each other, there's always a perfect time for sex but don't do it until your married because there's some things that might happen and u will regret it by the end. If u two love each other so much wait is the best thing. Believe me do the right thing.
 
well, you really shouldn't have done it until you were married, but 4 months??!! thats way too early to go to bed with someone the way i see it. you need to stop, because if a miscarriage scared you then boy are you in for it. Did you even use protection? they aren't even foolproof. i would advise against it with a big NO, you have no idea what a baby could do to your life. THERE IS NO EASY WAY OUT ONCE YOU ARE PREGNANT. abortion has more side effects than you could imagine, and if you gave it up you still have to go through a pregnancy. if you kept it, you would have to be willing to sacrifice your social life in its entirety.

Bottom line, NO. you should have never done it in the first place.
 
maybe if you explained your fear to him then he would be able to understand... if he loves you as much as you do and he is respecting your decision then i think you can talk to him... if you still feel the need to have sex then use protection but be sure it is what you want and that you have talked to him first incase you freak out or something he will understand

good luck
 
Go with your feelings. Dont toy withhim, but by all means protect in any way you can. If you dont have birth control yet use condoms.
 
the fact that your asking should wait till you have no doubt.
he'll just have to accept it.
 
Well it would be better to wait cuz you've guys only dated for 4 months so it wouldnt be good to take ur relationship to the next level juss yet, it's best to wait until like 6 months or so, but it's all up to you though.
 
well if your ready to have sex with him then you should go for it but just use a condom and u won't have to worry about pregnancy
 
Do whatever you feel like,maybe your boyfriend will change his mind or something.Use a condom....just in case.
 
If you don't want a baby, let him use a condom. Or find other alternatives. Or as you said, just wait it out until you get the birth control.
 
well if you're uncomfortable with it then don't but maybe it you want to and you're spending the weekend together start off slow maybe giving eachother oral/ hand jobs, then see if you want to go further and if you dont want to have sex then maybe you'll both get eachother to cum and it'll still be just as fun :P make sure you have condoms though just incase.
 
have sex with him if your scared of getting pregnant and having a miscarriage then have him use a condom. I think u might regtret not having sex with him so just live and use ur heart not ur brain
 
sounds to me you are way to young for sex if you have to question it. you said you had a miscarriage so i would suggest taking time to heal from that, emotionally i mean. you've only been with him for 4 months, ask yourself how many women has he been with before you? a pill doesn't protect against diseases. my question is wouldn't you rather make love to your husband than just some "boyfriend" that may or may not be with you for very long? i think You need to think about this for a little while longer.
 
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