Should i have sex, is your first time important these days?

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crazy ninja pirate

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I think the first time counts. It is great that you are 16 and haven't given into peer pressure. Just tell people that's its up to you when you want to loose your virginity, its your body after all. Don't let anyone crush your dream of finding someone you care about. It should be special!! thats my view on it as well.

many people will be proud of you for not being stupid enough just to jump into bed and have sex with a completely random guy from your college.

Good on you.
I'm proud of you...be proud of yourself
 
Yes, today, your first time intercourse is a big deal in a lot of cultures.

for sure though, have sex with a person you truly trust and love very much. but, i've got to say, try not to give into pressure. just because a lot of people you know are not virgins doesn't mean you should have sex because everyone else is doing it. plus it may seem like everyone is having sex, but trust me, not everyone is. there are a lot of girls who are proud of being virgins, and being a virgin is a true gift. giving it away is a bigger deal than you think. plus if you don't want people to pressure you don't tell them your a virgin anyways. and if they ask just say something like: "i'm not really concerned about what everyone else is doing."

just because you don't have sex for a long time doesn't mean you'll be a 40 year old virgin like your boyfriend said. he just wants you to give into him, and make him happy. and a lot of people don't lose their virginity when their drunk either. some people are just smart about their decisions and know what's best for themselves.

all you need to do is: 1. make sure your first time is with someone you love, know very well, and trust. not some stranger you met at a party or something. 2. use protection always, like condoms or birth control so you won't end up making regrets when your pregnant. and 3. make sure your emotionally ready. your virginity is the most Precious thing you can give to a man. smart people's first times are special, and pressured people usually don't turn out well.

be the smart one!
 
I'm 16, stil a virgin, single and i want my first time to be special with someone i care about but everyone i know has had sex and there not lieing bout it either, some hav had the rod put in there arms, some have gotten pregnant anyways everyone putting presure on me to sleep with someone, my whole college class has had sex and theyl be chatting bout sex and ask me how many ive had and ile be like none, im a virgin and they all look shocked, so i was talking to my guy mate the other day and he said i should sleep with someone or im going to be like the 40yr old virgin, so i told him i wanted it to be special or at least with someone i care about and he said no ones first is special and i shouldnt take that attitude, most people lose it when ther drunk so i was just wondering and i being naive by hoping to find someone i care bout and my first being special???? does it eva happen???? xxxx
 
thats terrible, all these young peple running around sleeping with each other getting knocked up spreading STD's and I bet you none on them know what the hell they are doing, who they are doing it with or even like what they are doing. They are doing it just so they can say they have done it and brag bout it the next day at recess. That doesn't sound fun to me. I regret not waiting. It is soooo much better when you actually trust and repect that person and it is mutual and ongoing. I think you should wait and just let everyone else have their meaningless sex with random people.

and PLEASE ALWAYS WEAR A DAMN CONDOM!!! don't listen to them when they say it feels better without it, that they are clean, they can;t fit into it or can't feel anything. its a load of crap. There are sooo many different condoms now with different textures and makes and sizes that everyone weenie out there can be comfortably fitted into one and they can feel everything and still keep you from getting pregnant of contracting some STD's. Don't ever let a man talk his way out of wearing a condom. Always wrap before you tap!
 
Look the best thing you can doo is wait for that special someone..I know that you feel presured because im 14 and I fel pressure too but you do not want a cheap hook up!My friends BF told her he loved her and the minute they had sex he started hitting her and dominting her..do you want that? Just wait until you're married because that way if you get pregnant your husband will be happy and there are less chances you will get STD's.Plus be proud of your self you're still a virgin because most teenagers these days keep loosing their virginity just because :)
 
You're only 16. In spite of what others may be doing, you're too young for sex. It's stupid to consider before you have your own health insurance (not Mom & Dad's) or your own cash to pay for medical treatment if you got pregnant or an STD, period.

Anything under 18 is too young, because your parents are still responsible (and they shouldn't have to be). I've known of PLENTY of men and women who didn't have sex until way into their 20s.

Only you can decide when it is right for you, but please be responsible about it and don't do it before you can afford any possible consequences, and you are at least 18 and legally responsible for said consequences yourself.

Plenty of people's first time is special...and plenty is just a screw. It's up to you to make the best choice you can so that yours will be closer to the former, than the latter.
 
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